Is it nornal to be scared of your own daughter?

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Name is dana and I'm very tiny. 4'10 90 lbs. I'm 40. My husband passed away last year leaving me to raise our daughter. My husband played college football. He was 6'5 260. My daughter is 16 and she's 6'0 and muscular . She plays basketball. I look like a dwarf next to my daughter. Other day she wanted to go out with a friend. I told her no because she's been on the wrong track lately. Grades slipping, partying, and I felt I had to do some parenting. She never gave me any reason to fear her before but when I told her she couldn't go she got really mad and came right to my face. She doesn't realize her own strength and one good shove or hit I think she could kill me. I got terrified. I couldn't help it. When she saw I was terrified she backed off and went to her friends. Next weekend sane situation. I was praying it was an isolated incident and she learned from it. I said you can't go because she neglects her school work, smoked. She comes up to me in my face again calm and goes I'm going and you can't stop me. She then shoves me and I went flying into the wall. She left again. I'm terrified of my own daughter. I'm a tiny littke girly girl weakling. I'm so scared of her. I called cops and nothing happ. I couldn't believe they didnt do anything. She only 16 and she still has growing to do and she's so young she doesn't realize how easily she can hurt me or even kill me. Is it nornal to feel so terrified of my own daughter?

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    Don't buy her anything, not even food. She'll turn her act around right quick. Hide your money and all your valuables. Tell her if she touches you again she won't eat.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    I think shes acting out because her father died. But thats no fucking excuse for her abusing you like that. Honestly if it was my child I'd smack her right back, go up to her friends and tell them she's not going out and to leave.
    But seeing as you're smaller if she hits you again i'd call the cops and try taking her into counseling. Also try recording her behavior, show it to her and maybe it will make her wake up. You can also use the footage to show the cops and or therapist.

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    • Littledana
      9 years ago

      Thank you. I will

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      • pixie44
        9 years ago

        Good luck honey<3
        Sorry for your loss.

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  • CheyChey
    9 years ago

    "one good shove or
    hit I think she could kill me" - well aren't we quite the exaggerator.

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    • pixie44
      9 years ago

      Have you seen the kids in the news these days? How many children have murdered their parents because they didn't get what they wanted. This generation is fucked up.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    This isnt normal.
    she is being a bully! How scary for you *hugs*
    Set up a camera to record any violance... a hidden camera. Then keep trying to parent her.
    if she keeps being abusive like this or gets any more violent you have video evidence to show the police.
    Get her some counselling or theripist for her issues. Maybe a court order to attend anger management classes.

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  • Nutbolt
    9 years ago

    i feel sorry for both of you. The main point in your relation is not physical strength but the emotional care. You are her mother and you have to keep on doing best for her save her from cold world and you are her she wont kill you,but she lacks the basic manners, abusing mom like this is not a thing to do i am 18,male never thought of doing it. She needs swear counselling and you are the one to do it.

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