Is it normal wife obsessed with her father

Normal to love your father, but when she's deciding to make decisions based on his say so I'd say that's too far. She married you not him.

Get out while you can because this will never change. You'll never have the chance to be your own man in this marriage, just a third party.

i find this really strange because she is married to you not her father. she should be sharing her life with you, not her father. she should be wanting to have your child, not her fathers lol. one reason you get married is to start a new family and for them to be your number one. yes its normal to love your parents and siblings and all that but she should be making her marriage decisions with her husband. i respect my father and his advice but at the end of the day, i would talk to my husband and make the decision together with him. not normal!

Thanx for your comments. (BTw WHOFAN, I too joke with her that she's having a baby with him!) Anyone it's not his fault- he always tells her not to make me jealous of him- it is her fantasy of the "ideal" man and "ideal" husband(which her father embodies) that is breaking us apart. She wants to change me- mold me like clay until I'm what sne wants (ei her father) until then she can't be happy. Of course I tell her to fuck off.

Maybe her father changed her mind to cover up the fact that she and him have a baby on the way. Just throwin' that out there!!!

no offense to you the husband but its normal to love your father more as a family member but as a reminder, she loves you both in different ways, and it can be sometimes hard to compare with each other. shes in love with you but loves her father. totally normal :]

It's normal for a woman to respect and admire her father, but the extent that your wife takes it seems quite abnormal. It's okay for a woman to love her father more than she does her husband, but I don't think she needed to actually tell that to your face.

Then again, her father have been a parent longer than you have, he might have his reasons to change her mind. But that still might not be the whole case. You should ask her father or her for reasons in making that decision. And then determine for yourself whether the father is controlling her or simply advising her (which she takes very, very seriously).

There is little info to go by from your post, but simply put, this is concerning your wife and her father whom she loves very much. Be careful with your words.

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cut your tail off, mickey. problem solved.

This is not an unusual situation and its level of "normal" varies from case to case. A father may substitute a daughter for a friend, partner or even a wife without setting out to do that. It has a great deal to do with his emotional stability and how his mother treated him as a child. He creates an entanglement with his daughter very early in her life and implicitly requires her to be the child/woman that he needs to provide him with love and attention. She may either comply with this or reject it. Often sisters in the same family will become rivals over this and will remain so well into middle age. Women in these relationships often crave excessive attention from men and demand to be "special".They tend to be "flirty" to extremes for no other reason than to generate sexual excitement in men they really have no interest in. When their expectations are not met they may experience anxiety, substance abuse depression and will sometimes engage in illicit affairs. It is unlikely that you will be able to successfully broach this subject with her without incurring her wrath,and Daddy's. It has little to do with your self esteem or notions of romantic love and you should encourage her in a non-accusatory way to seek marriage counseling.

creeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepy!