Is it normal why aren't i over him?

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I met this boy about 4 years ago. We just clicked and were eyeing each other down when we first laid eyes on each other. It was intense for me, i had a feeling that ive never had before; and too this day i still have that feeling just when i look at his picture. We dated for about 3 years. I wish i could tell you when we ended but i wouldn't know, cause he never had the balls to tell me that were over. Never once did he tell me that he wanted to see other people, or whatever line they use these days. He litterly just went in and out of my life...and i let him too. Cause i love him. I say its been about 7-8 months since weve actually stop seeing eachother. But hes still popping in and out of my life. He'll message me to come over, and i'll say no even though i
'd like to. But i know its just for the sex, cause he'll ask me at 2am, 3am when hes just getting back from the bar. When me and him are together were awesome, when were apart he forgets about me and thats how it's always been. I wanna be able to get over him and not stay stuck in this one place just waiting for him to come back. I am in a relationship, and ever since then he has been bugging me and complementing me on how i look. He's screwing with me head. Maybe he still loves me? and still thinks about me as i think about him? i just dont know. I need help on this situation and what you think im going through. I just wanna get over him and stop thinking about him every freaking day.

is it normal i still think about him everyday and still have huge feelings for him?

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  • runnynose
    12 years ago

    Yes it's normal. And it's not your fault. The best way to stop your feelings is to cut off all communication. Block him on Facebook and Twitter if you are a part of those social networks. You can block people who call and text you. What ever your phone service is, their customer service line can help explain it. Or you can go into the store. Also, avoid places you know he will be. If he has a favorite bar, do not go there and if he starts looking for you at your normal hangouts, try to find new places for a few months. After a few days or weeks of being completely cut off, you should start to feel free to expand in your new relationship. Also, explain the situation to your new guy so that he understands if you ever need a quick get away. Hope this helps.

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    • taciturn
      12 years ago

      I don't really understand why everyone seems to think that running away and avoiding someone is the best way to cope with this. If you do that, you're still being controlled by them. You're still dependent and you'll never learn to be independent. Like I said below, I think the single most important thing is to learn to love yourself enough that a heartbreak won't shatter your self-esteem. It's difficult, but it's the only real solution.

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    It's normal. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I don't mean to suggest that my situation is as hurtful as yours, but I've been getting along incredibly well with a girl, and today I told her that I liked her, and she told me she didn't. I already pretty much knew it, but it still hurt.

    Learn to love yourself before you learn to love other people. I know it's hard, but it's the best advice I can give you. It helps me, at least.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      i dont like myself much... idk how to love myself... i feel so alone all the time even though i got i fiance.. we like never c eachother much anymore.. im svared he will wake up one day and b done with me!... i love him so much i cant losse him... i wud give my life for him!

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  • sonsofanarchy(:
    12 years ago

    I know a guy like this , sadly were related by marriage . I am sorry you have to go through this .

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