Is it normal when your boyfreind wont let you have any freinds

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Hello. Im 21 and my boyfreind is 31. However when i met him i knew he had baby mama drama and was working on his g.e.d. And not only that he has been in prison. When he went to prison the second time when we were dating i decided not to go along with it.

however he got out and i still wanted nothing, but he proved to me that he has changed.

however im a christain and ive been trying my hardest for him to accept christ in his heart. he claims that i was the only girl that he has ever loved.

however he wont let me have any freinds. is this normal. i mean im getting bored just hanging with him. and i did tell him that he didnt change his ways i will be leaving...

however i broke it off for good a week ago. he got me a 32,000 ring and im not going back with him, but he claims that he will change. and everything.

my emotions are messed up and i need advice.

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  • BIGFATCOCK
    7 years ago

    He is afraid of young guys hitting on you seeing he is 31 years old and you are 10 years younger than he is.
    He is insecure and still a mama's boy.

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  • 2embarassmyself
    12 years ago

    not letting you have friends and isolating you is a very bad sign. cause of the whole DV thing, y'know, domestic violence.

    they isolate you so you don't have a support network. so they'll have you right where there want you. they'll take advantage of you. use you, kick you to the ground. and you'll have no one to run to. your just completely dependant on him.

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  • celestica
    13 years ago

    ''However'', you shouldn't try to let the love of sweet lord jesus christ in his heart.

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  • boogersforfree
    13 years ago

    Guys that know the end is coming will go to severe means to keep their girl, like...jewelry. He must not anyone else close to hang/confide with. But that's not your problem. Unfortunately he is filled with problems. Again, not your problem. You decide if you are his type or not.

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  • Senken
    14 years ago

    DAMN. DROP HIM ON HIS ASS IT'S NOT THAT HARD! IF YOU FEEL GUILTY ABOUT THE RING GIVE IT BACK (It's probably stolen anyway) just drop his ass in the grass foo.

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  • alexisfreak
    14 years ago

    WOW! 32,000$?! That is a sh*t load! This guy is messed up. You should go meet someone your own age and someone who has not been in jail.

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  • Golden
    14 years ago

    It sounds like your guy has made a lot of mistakes in his life. Everyone makes mistakes but his seem to control him. I say that because he sounds insecure and troubled. It doesn't really seem like he is learning from his mistakes. Lots of people can change from their mistakes but the change is not lasting therefore it means they didn't learn from them. I hope I'm not sounding to critical but I also have to say this: it is wrong for him to not allow you your own personal friends. No one should tell another adult who they can and can't be friends with and whether or not they can hang out with them. He should respect and trust you and by keeping you from your friends he shows he does not. Be confident that you deserve better treatment and be aware that it is not normal for a boyfriend to be controlling with his girlfriend even if it's only with this one thing. Hope this has helped!

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    • Jen118584
      14 years ago

      Good advice :)

      Take it from me girl, I dated guys like that in high school (except they were my own age) and even into college. I don't know why. All it did was cause drama and exhaust me. I never got anything good out of it except maybe a roll in the sheets. NOT WORTH IT. He won't change. He's 31 and he hasn't changed yet? Yeah, he's not going to. I don't want to sound negative and I suppose it's possible, but highly unlikely. Especially since he's still exhibiting this childish behavior.

      Keeping you from having your own healthy relationships with other people is ABUSE. He knows that you are a good girl and that is why he is clinging to you. He's taking advantage of your niceness and frankly, your naivete because he needs someone to take care of him. That's not a man, that's pathetic.

      You are way too good for him and you are still young. Be strong and don't take him back!

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  • AwesomeOrange
    13 years ago

    He is probably very attracted to you, and he doesnt want to take the chance that you may steer away from him, and towards other people, or that you might meet someone you like more.

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