Is it normal when you start hating your best friend?

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My best friend and I have known since we where 10 years old (we're 19 now). My story started 3 years ago. She met a girl who lives really far (she has to take a plane when they want to be together for weeks), and she's her girlfriend now. Everything ok with that. The problem is that when they are together (on the other side of the country) my best friend ignores me completely. I understand they want to spend time together, but I think it only makes us to get more distanciated. That's only the first problem. After this, you can say that what I feel is envy, or that I'm just super jelous. The last three years, my best friend left her bachelor's degree (I didn't) but she didn't look for a job either (she's always complaining she has no money), so we can say she's been on holidays for the last three years, doing nothing, travelling... My last three years? I've been studying, working and trying to pass a driving license. What have I got till now? Nothing. I'm in the same place, with the same people, and with no possibility of travelling or doing something different. Yes, you may think my problem is that I hate my life, but in the last month, it got worse. Right now, my best friend is in London, on holidays (my dreamlife) with her girlfriend. They will move there in August and live there for a really long time.
So the only thing I want to do is to get more distanciated from her, because I'm starting to hate her for all the things she gets with no effort.

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  • Holzman_67
    8 years ago

    I think comparisons are a mistake everyone's different

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    If what you envy in her life are things that you want for yourself then go out and achieve said things. There is no sense in hating someone else for things you want. Your life and how it is is solely based and dependent on you nobody else.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    It´s difficult but try not to compare yourself to others. I struggle with the same thing, you achieve nothing from being jealous of others for their success in life.

    If she has no money, how can she afford all these vacation? Her girlfriend? If so think of it as a temporarily happiness- Everything she has she has because of her partner.

    You, on the other hand, are trying to create an independant life for yourself.

    I´d start ignoring her too, fuck her if she can´t even acknowledge you whilst being with her GF.

    This said, when I am with my boyfriend I do not spend the days on my phone as much as I usually do because I prefer to spend time with him.

    So be fair to her, don´t expect to talk ALL DAY EVERYDAY but she should at least respond to you if something is up and you -need- her.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    You never know this lesbo chick might dump her, and then she'll be devastated. So try to look on the bright side, and dump her before that happens, that way you have a last laugh instead of killing yourself with jealousy.

    She might end up all crazy like actress Anne Heche. Gotta stay upbeat!

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