Is it normal when you can't stand hearing your boyfriends past

Maybe the fact that he feels the need to mention it when he's with you makes you feel like you've got competition, which is understandable. But he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you more than all of them, so it isn't anything you should worry about :)

This resonates with me so much it's ridiculous! I feel the need to share my story cause If I make a separate post it'll just be too similar! My boyfriend and I have a bit of an age difference and I'm the younger one, so naturally before we started dating he'd slept with a whole lot more people than I had. Well quite frankly I was a virgin and hadn't done more than fooled around a bit. Anyway when we started dating he would tell me about wild sex stories he had and cause he was older and I was so into him I would just act like I was cool with it. The more I fell for him the more it would get to me. So eventually I let on to how much it hurt knowing the things he did and he never mentioned a single thing after that. But now I have this whole library of mental images and stories in my head and it gets triggered sometimes. The other night we were watching a new episode of a sitcom we like where the characters were talking about prom and having sex afterwards, I remembered how he told me many months ago that for his formal he had a threesome with two girls afterwards. It just kills me! Even though it's been almost a year since we've been trying to move on from it whenever something triggers a memory I feel so upset. We love each other so much and wanna spend the rest of our lives together so I know I have to find a way to deal with it. Right now my biggest hope is that time will make it hurt less

Sorry for the rant thanks for reading! It really does feel so therapeutic to share...

Imagine how youd feel if you were a virgin, and you were his 10th girl, Feels fucking fantastic. Still have been dating for a year and have lasted longer than any of the girls hes been with especially since 6 of these girls were just fuck buddies.. The fact the his fuck buddies were grimey whores is what really gets to me, and now ive been his longest relationship but I still CANNOT shake the jealousy off my shoulders and really bugs me to know if I ever will be able to or not, I know how you feel!

be lucky that he told you this, I had to ask my bd about his past myself and still kinda do and we have been together for nearly 3 years. Having said that, I am a very curious person and always want to know EVERYTHING, it's not a good trait trust me, but, what can I do

Thank you for all the advice and knowing its normal! Appreciate it so much ladies.

Its Perfectly normal! i can't stand when my boyfriend does it. *Ugggh* if you really trust him and love him,try to stay positive and forget the past,*what he said* and live a good life! it's a good thing he stopped to and realized it hurt you. I think guys do that to like try to make us jealous or something -__- Immature boys these days. Anyways Keep Your head up Honey! :)

haha such a common problem for both sexes. Inevitably the subject is going to come up at one point but no answer is really good enough anyway now is it?

If he said that he slept with only one woman you would probably also hate the other woman and even think he would consider her really special.

It's really a trick-question affected by jealousy, just get over it. Also, think about it the other way around. IMO women give their body to a guy and leave themselves vulnerable while guys HAVE sex with women which really takes less involvement and vulnerable situations, right?

I've had this problem. I HATED everytime my boyfriend would mention his ex girlfriend, even if he said something horrible about her I'd feel sick just because he thought about her but at the same time I'm really curious to know how their relationship went. You really shouldn't worry because they were in the past.

Seems like you are a bit over jealous, you hate knowing that he has been with girls before you but you have been with twice as many guys. There is no rhyme or reason to jealousy, but you just need to try and work past it! He is yours now, so why worry about the past?

It's normal to feel like this, to be honest it'd be strange if you didn't, but if you want a good healthy relationship with him you're going to have to learn about his past.

It's just simple, old fashioned jealousy :) very normal, very irritating.

When you fall in love with someone and they have a history this happens. Not to everyone though, but its quite normal.
It's a little weird that you have a more active dating history than him and still find it upsetting I guess, but its just normal jealousy anyway. I'm the same and so was my ex, neither or us could stand the thought of the other with someone else. It was hurtful and sickening just to think about.
But like I said, its not something everyone feels. Everyone has history, and we have to learn to deal with it.

I've never understood this myself. Especially if this isn't the first person you've been with it's a silly thing to get upset over. I've never given a fuck about any of that.

Also it's not like he did anything sleazy aswell to freak me out, it's just normal comments, he's only been with 5 girls including me and I've been with 10 guys. We're both 21.