Is it normal when i'm not being shy i'm an asshole?

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I often get nervous before going into a pre-planned social situation. Half the time I sit and say nothing, the other half I psych myself up and act very outgoing.

I value truthfulness and I don't have much of a filter in 'outgoing' mode. I tend to insult people/be blunt and I know I'm doing it, but I guess I feel that I'm already 'switched on' and out there, so I don't stop. I don't insult them so much that they stop talking to me, just enough to illicit a "Damn, that was mean... Haha." IIN?

(I want to be the outgoing me, but I also don't want to be douche...)

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Not going to lie you sort of sound like me in social settings, except when I psych myself up, I try not to say anything that can be offensive. Honestly though I think you should try doing the same. I'm sure you can be a cool guy when you're not being psyched up, just try to let that side show more often.

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  • justsomekidfromcanada
    11 years ago

    Being a good conversationalist is all about practice man. People like to think it isn't but it is. Just work at it and you'll be fine.

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  • DavidS.
    11 years ago

    social anxiety leads to douchebaggery because you kind of are saying....see you mothers put me through all this shit so I am gonna pay you back...and , like you said, you have to get so keyed up that you like a boxer right after smelling the ammonia salts

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  • ProcrastoMan
    11 years ago

    Yeah, I think there are times when people feel like they have to talk but it's not necessary. So if I'm not talking they think something's wrong with me. I agree that the more you're in social situations, the more comfortable you'll feel and you won't even be worried about this.

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