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grandmother expects to make coffee at beck and call do dishes 3 times a day and cook supper after atteneding school and never once recieve a thank you and if i ever refuse for any reason she freaks out and starts raising her voice and calling me names or saying oh fuck you. normal or no?
She sounds awful! Grandmas in my family on both sides aren't like that at all. I think a good grandma ought to bake cookies, and take her grandkids shopping.
My grandma was all about taking us shopping. She was also a very affectionate person towards my sister and I. We were her only grandchildren, but she loved children, and genuinely enjoyed being a grandma.
I can't help but to wonder if OP's granny perhaps abuses drugs, and or alcohol.
Not normal at all. Helping out around the house is one thing. Being treated like an on demmand servant at all points while you should be focusing on your studies is not.
just spit in her coffee and smile a lot, she eventually never ask for coffee again. that said here is another fun fact. If you dont raise your kids right , you wind up raising there kids. Its unlikely you will be letting her raise your kids. think about that and let it sink in. then in about a month sit her down and have a long talk about life. she isn't really telling you to fuck off , she just cant say it to her kid. funny thing about all the misery you feel now , in time when its over it will seem like nothing at all.
In my experience yes it's normal. But only in the sense that it happens all the time. Not that it should. The generation of days past used their kids like serfs, and they assume that you should be treated the same.
Not all are like this though. Usually one part of a couple is the one who does everything, and the other is the one who gives all the orders. When this dynamic is changed, as in the case of divorce or death, shit hits the fan.
sadly i live with her and she does pay the bills but yeah i didnt think this was normal
Try to identify what troubles her and establish a rapport with her, get closer, show that you are a young adult who is entitled to respect and won't tolerate being a lackey. There must be some underlying mental issue abound or else she wouldn't treat you this way. Is she taking any meds, has been diagnosed with any somatic or psychological illness, any addictions?