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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 8 months now. I'm 25 and he's 23. Lately (over the course of the past few months ) it seems like we almost never kiss other than to say bye. It feels like i'm just hanging out with a guy pal that holds my hand and buys my food and movie tickets. Are we drifting apart this early? Is this anything to worry about?
At your all's age, I am quite surprised that you are not having sex. Is it a religious affliction?
If he's still buying you stuff, well, it seems more than likely that he wants to stick around. But not necessarily!
I really want to go the Freud route and say that it's the lack of sex. Perhaps your denial of sexual activity caused him to believe that even a kiss is too sexual for you, or full on Freud and he simply won't kiss you because you won't have sex with him. If it's the latter, what a douche...dump the guy!
But like most replies, I've got to say: if you can't sit down with each other and talk about this issue and instead take it to the web for a bunch of random people to assess, why are you even together? Being honest and open about every issue is the key to a successful relationship...and probably more kisses!
I'm not sure, I'm like that with my boyfriend to, but I don't mind. We weren't bestfriends before we started going out, but we act like it now. I can't say we kiss as much as we used to, but as long as he doesn't pull away when I try to kiss him i'm fine. I think it's more comfortable the way we are, I wouldn't call it drifting. I think alot of people see it as drifting, or falling out of love so they break up, but honestly it's just a relationships natural course. I don't think it's anything to be afraid of
Have you tried kissing him?
Don't you have a sexual relationship?
(I know some people wait and that's why I'm asking)
It'll be a lot easier to tell if you answer these questions.
Stay strong :)
No, no sexual relationship. He asked me once but i wanted to wait and he never said anything about it again.
Once or twice yeah i've tried kissing him but then it always goes back to no kissing ever again.
If it bothers you, you should talk to him about this. Tell him how you feel.
Sounds like he's sulking that he didn't get his wicked way with you so now he's backing off. Ask him this directly, and if he is stupid enough to admit to it - them dump this loser! Once he has had sex with you he will lose interest even quicker!!
If he is refusing to kiss you since you wont have sex that is really petty. I would terminate the relationship. He obliviously does not love you enough to care when you are not fucking him. So he really is not worth your time. Sounds like a dick. Relationships are not only about sex. Sounds like he is trying to guilt you into having sex with him by not allowing any romance at all.
why are you guys together? It seems like neither of you are passionately in love. When a couple is IN LOVE with each other they will be so affectionate with each other.
Its sad to say this but alot of couples are together because they dont want to be alone or single and settle. but i dont see the passion here. do you even have sex or desire each other?
Hello there,
During the rises and falls of a relationship, kissing and sex are often undulating; one day very romantic and plentiful, the next all but barren.
For example, I kiss my husband at least twice a day - usually when we wake up, and once again when we go to sleep. But sometimes we kiss no more than that. Does it equal marriage struggles? Absolutely not. It actually just means that today isn't a climax, just like phases of the moon.
As your boyfriend doesn't seem to appreciate a good old kiss, perhaps you might try asking him why, truthfully. There could be a number of reasons as to an explanation:
¤ Your refusal of sex (although it's fabulous to wait until you're ready, girl - so good on you!)
¤ Perhaps he feels he is a 'bad kisser'
¤ He doesn't want to pressure you
Naturally these are speculations and might be nothing close to reality - so go ask the guy, lady!
Good luck, and remember - feel free to ask for any advice you may need.
xx
Try kissing him?
Not too much, because maybe he doesn't like kissing thatt much or something .
But just enough, that tell him you love kisses.
My boyfriend started doing this to me, but I think he just didn't wanna kiss at the time
Sounds like you're drifting apart already and it probably won't get any better. Been there, done that and what's frustrating (yes, i am a guy) is that I love to hug and kiss. Good luck