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About 3 months ago, my boyfriend broke up with me after 4 years. I think about him every day, and I can't go to sleep without wanting to know where he is. I want him back so badly but I don't think he wants me back.
This is when you need to really unleash your strength and forget about him. It will be hard, and its normal to feel hopeless, sad and alone with broken sense of self esteem. Try not to let him know that it bothers you as much as it does if you can. Prove to yourself that you can move on and be happy if not happier -
Sometimes your own passions are placed aside whilst involved in a long term relationship - rekindle your passions (art, hiking, cooking etc...) and try to learn to be happy within yourself. It's hard but if you can figure out how to do this your laughing for the rest of your life ;)
This. Thank you.
I've made this rant several times before, but every time a story like this comes along, 99% of people suggest total avoidance. I've heard everything from "delete him from all of your contact lists" to "snap a rubber band on your wrist every time you think of him". Avoidance is not escape. It's a painkiller.
Claire here is absolutely right though. The only real solution is to be comfortable enough with yourself that even if it does hurt (which it will), it doesn't hurt enough to ruin you.
sometimes it can be hard no knowing what comes next or trying to change all of your dreams from "we should try that new restaurant" or going to the store and seeing something that he would absolutely love. Its always best to be alone then accompanied by the wrong person. stay strong and get into some projects, go to the gym which helps you get a higher self esteem and will help him see what he is missing out on. take a class and simply learn all you can from those years and put that effort onto the next guy. Good Luck, and remember what is meant to be will be, so don't stress he will find his way back if it is meant to be.
-Delete him out of your life, from everything.
-Don't sit around at home crying, go out as much as possible.
-Talk to people alot, and try meeting new people.
-Find a hobby, and keep busy.
I know what you're going throught but trust me YOU WILL HEAL.
Time heals.
Normal. Get over him and move onto someone else in time. He's not worth you're tears.
its hard delaing with a break up, ive been with my bf for 4 yrs and i still cant go a day without him even though our relationship is totally down hill i try my best to fix it, maybe yuu should talk to him and try to fix things .
here is what u do. call his work and pretend to be his mamz, ask for his schedule. once u know when he'll be home, wait at the doorstep. wear only a coat. use tape (scotch is best, duct will work fine tho) to tape some rose petals 2 your jumblies. he will die *not actually* but *love actually*. he will b yours again in no time. remember! be yourself.
If you didn't still care about him, you never loved him... but remember things ended for a reason :( good luck.