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So I'm still a virgin and when I tell girls that they say "good for you!" but when I tell guys that they say "sorry" Why do they say sorry? Is that normal?
The expectation is and always has been for men to be horny and get laid. When most guys settle down, they look for a virgin though, not a girl who's been around the block like they have. Guys are expected to be sexually active, but girls are "sluts" if they sleep around. Society's double standards at their best.
People are so stupid. You don't have to feel sorry for being a virgin. It's fine. And those guys are being stupid. Don't rush yourself. You do it when you feel comfortable, and you do it with the right person.
You should definitely wait until you're ready to lose it with someone you love or care about; not just something you want to do with whoever, you'll probably regret it if you listen to those people who say "sorry". Besides that there are a lot of girls who would like to know you're their first, just something to keep in mind.
Yes, I agree with jensapa. There is more of a pressure on guys to lose their virginity.
Just the stigma people attach. Guys are expected to be horny an macho around other guys. There sorry to hear your not all sex'd up like they are! (yeh right guys!)
I stayed one until I was married. I was a jock and some folks made fun of me, but most respected my faith. Most my friends have divorced and I am still with my high school sweetheart after 20+ years.
I don't really understand why you would tell people that. I don't tell people I'm not, so why tell them you are? So what.
I bet you the guys who tell you that are virgins themselves.... most guys just like to talk but there is nothing to feel sorry for, you should be proud! I bet you'll have the best sex too! Because most guys are in a rush to lose it and just end up doing it with the first volunteer, but trust me, my bff who is a total freak says even though he has sex all the time that emotional sex with someone you actually love still beats the rest. and so do my other guy friends
Just because girls say good for you doesn't always mean they approve of it. I've seen some hear that and go make fun of the guy to their groups of friends.
and what would you say if a man posted, "woman are pigs, they should all be shot."??
or "woman are objects, they should stay in the kitchen"??
i assume you would be highly offended? So dont go and make comments like this attacking an entire gender just because you're unable to find a decent guy.
(oh and PS, im a girl, so dont try any more sterotypes on me)
Virginity is not dignity. It's lack of opportunity. Your guy friends know this.
Not saying its bad but why do you have a need to tell everyone "Hey look at me! Im a virgin!" It seems like you are proud of it and you see it as something to brag about. Also this kind of thing happens with girls but mostly guys. Guys make a big deal about losing their virginity as soon as possible. So the guys think you feel bad so say "Sorry". The girls really do not care as much so just say "Good for you". You seem to be bragging though which I find weird.
I'm a guy, and I could see myself saying "im srry" to that but it would be like a joking around kind of thing. You know ;) just be sure to do it with the right guy when your ready! :)
don't listen to these people being a virgin untill your married is a good thing
That is because males erroneously believe that females crave sex as much as they (males)do. If you aren't getting any then most males assume that it sucks to be you. What is really interesting is that if you were to ask a straight male to put their self in your situation, they would freely talk about how they would give numerous blow jobs, use their "pussy" to rule the world, mount crillions of penises, and just be a big whore about it. That sex drive on an actual female, however, is not very pretty(or practical)at all.
It's just guys trying to be being funny.
For whatever reason it is, boys strive to get laid and are more into the concepts of sex than girls are, or would care to admit. (just a generalization)
Funny, when I tell the girls I go to school with tell my sorry... Even though I'm a girl there is still the stigma of virginity, :-/