Is it normal to worry about who my bf play online with?

Sexual as he wrote sexual things he would do with her?

He shouldn't be doing that kind of thing while in a relationship.

He got mad when you told him to imagine you doing it with another guy, so why the fuck is he doing it to you?

First of all: When people are confronted with something they did not expect, their first reaction is to go on the defense. Thats probably why he initially lied.

As for some messaging back and forth with someone on another continent? I wouldn't worry about that too much...also, as you said, you just got together.

Your feelings are understandable, but often, people just want the reassurance that they "could", that they "have what it takes". Especially people in a relationship often end up wondering about their perceived "value" to others. Their partner loves them crazy, but are they also still attractive and charming to people outside of the relation?

This "probing" can quickly turn into light flirting, and, possibly, more. Most likely he merely enjoyed some sexting with a (probably) girl on another continent, without giving much thought to it but satisfied with himself that he "got there", never intending for it to be more than that.

Now, he may be one to look out for if he's out with the buddies and takes calls in another room, but unless there's specific reasons to doubt it, i'd just write it off as a stupid "manly prowess" type of thing. Yeah, they need to prove it to themselves. Not much better than us dressing up for the night out and feeling good if someone tries to chat us up, but they tend to take it further.

Also, as shade said: the amount of commitment usually becomes higher the longer you are in a relation-

Honey*

Well, I found out, a year later, that 7 months into the relationship my bf had been having cyber sex with other women, and yes I do consider that cheating. And Shade_ilmendue did not make a valid point at all because at the end of the day, he should respect you and not do what he did. He is either with you and fully committed to you or he can sod off! The more you stand for it the more he will do it! I know because I have experienced it! You either sit down and you tell him again how you truly feel and tell him that if he wants to play around than the relationship is no longer going to last. He can't have both. Sand your ground homey. As they say, first time shame on him and second time is shame on you for letting him do that to you!! No one should have to up with it! STAND YOUR GROUND and have pride! Good luck

the girl said sexual stuff and he didnt stop her but he said she is cute. i didnt see anything of him saying what he'd do to her.she said rub my pu***. their was a pic attached but i didnt know how to retrieve it.

He is a home bodied person, he doesn't go out to clubs, bars, or hang with his guy friends. He usually hang around his friends and I'm with him half the time. It happned once and now he says it won't ever happen again, it was stupid. I told him to think how he'd feel if he saw messeges of me and a guy talking sexual and complimenting..he got mad. So yea.

the context was sexual..i dont wanna type it all bc it hurt my feelings that he was involved in a convo like that

Well, a few messages back and forth doesn't really sound like a lot to me, but without knowing the context of those messages I don't know if it's normal or if it's an overreaction.

And one thing to consider, there's probably a lot more commitment between the two of you now than there is one month in.