Is it normal to worry about motives of indian men
I am a 28 year old white woman in the US, I recently started working with a 27 year old Indian man from south india. did not come to the states until college. Several months after we met, a coworker told me that he liked me, I shyed away because we worked together and I am really uncomfortable with the thought of dating someone with such different cultural background because I know what kind of drama it brings mostly from the family. A few months later we end up talking at a company gathering and he kissed me. It was very passionate and I was kind of shocked that he did it. We decided to go on a date that next weekend and there he tells me he is going to india for a month to visit his family in a couple weeks. I was disappointed that he would be gone for so long, but I knew we would talk on the phone. So in the weeks before he left, we had more dates and a few make out sessions. Then he leaves, he calls me every day or instant messages me. He tells me how much me misses me, so intensely, and I could not get him to let me hang up the phone most of the time. Every day he is telling me he likes me more and more and how he can't wait to get back here so he can hold me. Well here we are 3 weeks into his trip, this last weekend he has not called me, messaged, and I called him and he says let me call you tomorrow sweetie pie. I say ok. No call back. I wait 2 days and I call him again, he says he has been sick, but I saw him online, and then I called him and says he is sick, then asks to call me back in 15 min. He never called back. I emailed, he has not emailed back. He comes home in 6 days. I am working on a project with one of his best friends who he grew up with in india, and I tell him my worries and he basically comes out and says that he has feelings for me...I told him that I don't want to betray my boyfriend (his best friend) and that while I do think he is an awesome guy, I really care for his friend. He came to my desk today and was telling me I looked very sexy today. How can someone who is supposed to be a good friend try to steal his girl. In a way I feel like I am being tested. I just don't know. I am so confused. Several other people I work with made jokes that my boyfriend was probably going to come back married, and just date me until he could bring his wife back from india. I just don't know what to think. I mean I don't know if I should say something to my boyfriend about his friend, but I don't want to start a big mess especially since we have just started working on this project at work. I guess right now he would have to call me first of all for me to tell him anything at all. What is my boyfriend really up to? Why would he lose interest over one day after being so passionate. We didn't even have sex!!! Lol