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I wonder why women who call themselves heterosexual watch lesbian porn. Honestly, I would like to know how and why it can be interesting for them at all. Is it normal not to understand this?
because straight porn usually focuses on what gets men off
lesbian porn focuses more on what gets women off
Thank you for your answer. It seem that quite a lot of women enjoy lesbian porn. However, according to what I have read about this issue the primary consumers of lesbian porn are still straight men. That is why it is made with the intention to satisfy the sexual needs and preferences of straight men and the acts depicted in lesbian porn are supposed to arouse them (the men). Sure, many women like cunnilingus, manual stimulation, sensual play etc. in real life but I still don´t understand why they prefer to watch these activities between two women and not between a woman and a man. Nowadays, there is quite a lot of straight porn on the Internet which shows the same activities and porn sites usually offer the porn movies under the categories aimed at these sexual activities. If the woman who watches lesbian porn is straight why does she prefer it to staight porn? It is not clear to me. I will be thankful for your further explanation.
men often like lesbo porn because they imagine joining in. or as another poster said just recently, he likes watching other couples.
as for why, straight women like it vs straight porn.
again most straight porn is scripted with MALE desires in mind. Yes the porns might have a little bit of female stimulation, but the predominate factor is the penetration or plots that jump right into sex with less romance or less foreplay.
Lesbian porns however... unless you're getting into strap-ons or dildos is straight foreplay. And many of the porns focus on the buildup of tension rather than just jumping into the "lets fuck!" stage.
Such as... a massage that starts getting more and more sensual, where the person being touched isn't quite sure if it's what she thinks it is... until the tension is at the point where she's almost arching towards the touch, wanting it to be more.
Stuff like that right there can be much more tantalizing than seeing the classic "Hey i'm here to clean the apartment.... Let's have sex!" plots of many straight porns.
And sure you may find more straight porns that include more foreplay and more romance but... it's also about masturbating. this is about a woman's time to herself to pleasure herself until she climaxes. sometimes it's easier when she only has to think about her own body's needs ... which often don't include penetration or being poked in every hole.
cos it's all about her. and sometimes the penetration part is more about him vs her... which is why the lesbian porns can work so well.
Thanks for your explanation. It definitely makes sense.
If I understand it well, there are quite a lot of women who prefer sensual caresses and cuddling to sex and this is reflected also in their porn preferences. Sure, if the act of sex is not particularly arousing to a woman and she is not into it very much it would be quite pointless to watch it when she wants to pleasure herself and climax.
I have also heard that some women are repulsed by penis even if they consider themselves straight. In addition, other factors may play a role and the result is clear - lesbian porn is better than straight porn for some women.
You are right that there in a lot of penetrative sex in straight porn. But what about straight porn videos which do not include penetration at all? You can find plenty of them on the Internet if you want - especially under certain categories. For example there are videos specialized on cunnilingus which do not show stimulation of the man, his penis etc. at all...
On the other hand, I understand that porn videos that depict the same sexual activity may be different and the gender of the performers may be one of the factors which can influence what the performance looks like.
might also depend on the techniques being used.
if you'd like some eye-openers on this check out Nina Hartley's vids on how to pleasure women.
she gives good examples such as "flicking sucks, sucking rocks" for cunnilingus and points out that simple finger poking doesn't often do much.
Thank you for your advice but I do not need your or anyone else´s eye-openers on how to pleasure women. They are useless for me because I am not a desperate guy who has no idea of what is going on between female legs. I AM a woman. As I am sexually attracted only to men (= I am straight) only men can really arouse me sexually. As far as I know these characteristics (i.e. sexual attraction to individuals of particular gender, sexual arousal by individuals of particular gender) belong to the core aspects which define sexual orientation. Specifically:
1. heterosexual – the person is sexually aroused by and attracted to the opposite gender;
2. homosexual – the person is sexually aroused by and attracted to the same gender;
3. bisexual - the person is equally sexually aroused by and attracted to both genders.
Based on the concept of sexual orientation straight women are sexually aroused by (and only by) men – not by other women. I mean, It is completely OK when a woman is sexually aroused by other women – if she is lesbian or bisexual, it is understandable and fine to enjoy one´s sex life this way. However, if a woman is straight another woman cannot be sexually arousing to her.
My original question is not only a matter of personal preferences, it is also interesting from the theoretical point of view. I think that prasatko can clearly see what the problem is - “ lesbian porn is great for straight men, bisexual women, bisexual men, lesbian women but not for women who are straight (neither bisexual nor lesbian)“. Exactly as prasatko pointed out, what i am interested in is “how it can be arousing for someone (HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN in this case) to watch porn where THERE IS NO PERSON WHO WOULD BE SEXUALLY AROUSING TO THEM (NO MAN in case of lesbian porn)“.
Your explanation of how straight women can be aroused by lesbian porn is focused on the techniques being used in porn videos and their quality. You do not address the question of the absence of a man who should be arousing for a straight woman at all. Being a straight woman only men can arouse me sexually. If they use wrong techniques, it is not arousing for me. If women use right techniques on women, it is not arousing for me because I am straight and women and their techniques (no matter how great) cannot be arousing for me, as I am not lesbian (nor bisexual).
I decided to ask why straight women like watching lesbian porn to see if women who claim that they are straight and that they enjoy lesbian porn can explain these things which are incompatible / mutually exclusive. This thread only supported my suspicion that if a woman claims that she is straight and lesbian porn / other women arouse her sexually she either does not know what her sexual orientation is or she does not know what sexual arousal is and confuses it with something different.
Sorry, but “a massage that starts getting more and more sensual, where the person being touched isn't quite sure if it's what she thinks it is“, cuddling, romance etc. refer to sensuality and emotions, not to sexuality and sexual arousal.
Based on how I understand this conversation, the original poster does not understand how it can be arousing for someone (heterosexual woman in this case) to watch porn where there is no person who would be sexually arousing to them (no man in case of lesbian porn).
And it seems to be a legitimate question. As for me, I am a male, and I would not find gay porn videos arousing no matter how perfect techniques would the man in the gay video use, I am a straight man and only women can arouse me. If they use wrong techniques, it is not arousing for me. If men use right techniques on men, it is not arousing for me because I am straight and men and their techniques (no matter how great) cannot be arousing for me, as I am not gay. I think that the OP wants to know how a woman using the right technique on a woman could be arousing for a straight woman who is not aroused by women but by men using the right technique.
Women are attractive. All heterosexual women check out other women, all the time.
True they are not aroused sexually (except for their 'man' getting aroused) I mean are you suggesting that heterosexual women watch lesbian movies on their own?? NO.
But be perfectly aware that women DO see beauty in other women. Perfectly normal.
Thanks for your answer. Definitely, watching porn can be very exciting if it depicts something which arouses the person sexually. What I do not understand is what aspect of LESBIAN porn can be arousing for a HETEROSEXUAL woman if there is no male who is supposed to be the object of her sexual desire.
I love to watch women having sex. I have had a couple of sessions with women that were really mind-stretching. Particularly one girl that had so much pubic hair that it was hard to find her labia. I think the answer here is that if there is an attraction, regardless of gender, you should go for it. If you have a guy you fancy don't forget the condom.