Is it normal to wonder what else is out there?

It's normal to wonder "what if?"

I may be younger than you, but I evidently have had more partners than you (not a boast, just making a point) and I can say the grass really does only appear to be greener on the other side.

I am far happier now married than I had ever been either single or with other women/girls.

The things out there arnt that great.

It's normal to feel that way, and I think everyone does it, not just people who marry young or have a family at a young age. Everyone at some point wonders what it would be like to have a different life.

I think that you deserve to have the best life you can have for yourself, just because you're alive. Self-sacrifice for others rarely works, because it generally causes embitterment and anger.

That said, think long and hard before acting on any of these feelings. If life has been good to you, and you have a loving husband and a good family, "throwing the baby out with the bathwater" may come back to hurt you more than you expected. Famous last words: "It seemed like a good idea at the time." Keep the bigger picture in mind.

Everyone wonders what if they chose another path. Sounds like you love your husband and children. There is No Way you can get back what you think you've missed out on beacause you are not 16 anymore you are 34. It is not the same. And a mother of 5 with what it would be an Ex. Not very marketable in the first place. So no you can't get back being single and carefree with dating and other men. It's normal to wonder but remember you will never have those feelings you had you feel you missed out on.

I think your spirit is just ready for more. There is an unrealized dream that still needs to be pursued. This doesn't mean you should leave your husband or family, just include something in your life that is for you. Perhaps some schooling? A job or a different career? You are young enough to start preparing for your future. And no guilt is necessary. Go find/uncover that dream!!

I was married twice (after 30+ yrs old) and let me be the first to tell u that u haven't missed a thing. If I knew it would be this bad I would've stayed with my 1st wife.

What you've missed is what you chose to miss. Your husband has missed out on things as well still all chosen. I think it's normal to feel that way but I would go making any poor judgements off those feelings. Mayb try reading dr Laura. Proper care and feeding of a marriage. I didn't want to myself at first either but after finding myself in the same situation I decided to giv it one last shot. So I read it while I was at it and it made all the diff. Good luck

I am 43 and went through the same thing my wife left and I started to have very similar thoughts

It's called selfishness. Be happy you have somebody!

And this is why you don't stick with the first person you have a relationship with.