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Just wondering to all the girls out there on a scale to 1-10 how much did it hurt when u first lost your virginity..?
everyone has a different experience their first time.
i can't rate mine because it was over a decade ago, but yeah it wasn't comfortable.
It's not supposed to hurt. If it does, you're doing it wrong (too hard, too fast).
The trick is A LOT of foreplay before actual penetration. I would personally ask him to preform oral sex on you first since that should well...get you "hot" down there, and yeah it'll be uncomfortable, but at least it shouldn't feel like you're giving unmediated, vaginal, birth to a baby. Usually, the reason why most girls say that it really hurt them the first time is because the guy fucked her dry (he didn't bother to get her sexually stimulated through foreplay) and tore her up inside there. Also, please note that you may bleed a little bit after sex (this does not always happen) but that's just due to the hymen being ruptured and it's nothing to worry about. And, I'll let you on a personal secret, I am not a virgin, heck I have a baby, and sometimes if my partner doesn't bother to stimulate me enough before penetrating me, it hurts until I get "hot" down there.
forgot to mention, if you DO break the hymen the first time, I'd recommend waiting at least a week before trying again.
it didn't hurt me at all, but my hymen had been broken at some prior point in my life.
tip? bring lube. You can try with the foreplay to get lubricated enough but my boyfriend and I used (what felt like) half a bottle, no pain at all.
Was slightly uncomfortable, but that's because i very rarely had anything up there that was bigger than a tampon.
My first time Hurt like a bitch!! And yeah it is supposed to hurt it's tearing your vagina!!! It's gunna hurt but if your doing it with the one person you love and you know you don't want no one els you won't be worried on how bad it hurts!! But if it is with that one person it'll all be worth it!! Trust me((:<3!!
My first time didn't really hurt. The key is foreplay. If you're aroused and relaxed, it's less likely to hurt.
Oh yeah my first time hurt like hell. It was that pain that brings tears to your eyes but not enough to stop.
It hurt really really bad the first time I did it. I didn't do it again for a year after that and that time it hurt less. Don't do it unless you're sure you're ready!
It's very normal to be concerned about discomfort. And that's what it is - discomfort rather than pain. I would say a 3 or 4 on a scale. The best way to go is to be with someone you trust and someone who will be patient with you, relax as much as possible and don't put loads of pressure on for it to be amazing. Infact, never do - pressure to have really good sex can actually ruin the experience! It's better when you're just prepared to chill and take it as it comes (bad choice of word there, sorry!) Chances are first time won't be great but it's still an important moment. Stressing about sex makes you tense and therefore it can be a bit uncomfortable, so only do it when you're ready etc.
thanks for the advice =) i am preety scared to be honest and have no idea what to do lol i don't wanna be one of those girls that the guys says was like fcking a fish or watever, so also am nervous to what to do... and does first time with right person really matter? iv been considering doing it with this guy that i like but im not crazy about? ?
No problem. Don't worry - it's something you haven't done before, so why would you know exactly what to do? I think first time does matter because it will stay in your memory - so you don't want it to be something you regret, if you see what I mean? And depends on the guy, if he respects you etc, ok. But if not and if you're only considering it to kind of 'keep up' with others, then I wouldn't. Basically don't lose it just because you're feeling pressure to. Trust me, it may feel like a big deal now but one day you won't care about what age you were etc. Mature, nice, reasonable people don't put a lot of value on that kind of thing. It's no big deal. Ideally, I think it's good if you can lose it with another virgin, that way you're both in the same boat. However, if it's not with a another virgin, then it's probably best to be open with them - don't lie about it. If they get all weird that you're a virgin then they're not worth your time anyway!
thats sounds true and great advice, i do feel odd as i havn't lost it yet and some people find it weird, but i am also pleased that i havn't just lost it for the hell of it. one more thing when i get a bf one day do u have to do it, like do guys usually understand or want to wait or will not having sex make the relationship not last very long.. that's another reason why i don't date, i don't wanna loose it to the first guy i date, but im so much older now so i think the majority would expect to be sexually active in a relationship?
In my opinion, if you're with the right guy then he will wait for you if you don't feel ready. Also, there shouldn't be pressure to have loads of sex in a relationship if one of you doesn't want to. Guys do have higher sex drives, but at the end of the day they'll cope going without from time to time! It's so important to have a strong emotional relationship as well as a physical one if you're in a full on committed relationship. Mutual respect for eachother is essential and that includes respecting eachtother physically. Guys do not have a right to a woman's body, it's her body. To be honest, I think people exaggerate the amount of sex they have to show off!? I don't mind admitting that I once went a good three months without sex despite the fact I was in a relationship. We were just doing other things and often tired when we went to bed so just fell asleep! lol Have also done long distance so you don't have sex for weeks on end then. It should never be the centre of a relationship. Just stay true to yourself and you won't have regrets about it in the future! : )