Is it normal to wish your child was never born?

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Is it normal to (secretly) wish your child was never born?

My son has given me such shit from before he was even born. Started out as a high-risk pregnancy, multiple doctors, many hospitalizations, and including an ambulance ride to the Delivery Room, a two week patient in the NICU, and continuing to this very day.

He was always in trouble at school, did not graduate, getting to major trouble with the law, been to jail many times, set his room on fire, a drug addict, never had a job for more than a few months, has 4 kids with 3 women, and now, today, at age 32, he is at risk to lose his daughter, and her family wants to kick him out of the house he shares with his un-married baby's mama.

I'm sick and tired, and going broke, from CONSTANTLY rescuing his ass.

Am I wrong? What do I do?

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Well no wonder he's a problem, you blame HIM for a problem pregnancy? Just how ignorant and immature are you? Sounds as if you got the child you deserved, but it's sad for him that you resented him for something he had no control over.

    It sounds as if you believe an unborn baby deliberately inconvenienced you - how ridiculous is that?

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    • Unknown000
      8 years ago

      Exactly! And it takes shitty parents to get one disturbed child.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Maybe he knows he wasn't wanted so he holds resentment against you and doesn't feel he owes anything so he doesn't feel any need to please you or anyone else. When people feel rejected they tend to sink into a downward spiral of failure because there is no reason to care.
    When someone chooses to have children they are signing up for whatever complications come with parenting.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    In the sense that i am a shit parent yes.

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    The old sea dog's right. Your son is beyond help. The only option you have is to close your doors. Maybe someday he'll understand, but that ain't your responsibility anymore. Let him know that mama ain't gonna come to the rescue every time he makes a mess.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    You should try fucking some tight cute sweet innocent little GypsySailor asshole with your children.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    As I see it you should have cut his ass loose a long time ago to either sink or swim on his own.
    I had a daughter who was literally ungovernable by the time she was 12 and with the laws as they were in Fla, my 'parental authority' was severely limited. When it became apparent that I was going to be the one to go to jail for something I didn't do or couldn't control, I had her declared ungovernable by the state and though she lived with me, the state, not I became responsible for her actions.
    Long story short, she's found a good man and is soon to have a baby and it seems she's finally figured things out.
    When she quit high school, it was on the condition that she would never receive another penny in cash from me, and she never has. I've bought her furniture for her apt (which she sold the next day) and even a new car which was repossessed, ruining my credit, but she's never received cash. Several times I've supported her return to school, only to have that fail, too.
    She was always welcome to come home (when I lived in the states) for a shower, hot meal and a bed, but it was and is HER life to live as she pleases.
    Good luck and honestly, don't think of this as your failure. Sometimes there's no helping your children, no matter how much you'd like to, or love them.

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    • Captain_Flatulitis
      8 years ago

      Lead a horse to water my good man....

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      • LittleGirlGaggedAndRaped
        8 years ago

        ...but you can't make em...

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        • Captain_Flatulitis
          8 years ago

          Have sex legally with you.

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          • LittleGirlGaggedAndRaped
            8 years ago

            Because the animal can't give concent.

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  • Unknown000
    8 years ago

    It all depends on the way he was raised and in the family atmosphere he grew up! He probably was unhappy since his childhood. Your son's behaviours seem like he is a bit sociopathic and very out of control. You kinda fail a bit....

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    It sounds bad but a lot of people probably wish this.

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  • noid
    8 years ago

    Quit rescuing. Rescuing helps enable him to continue.

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  • Jazyritz619
    8 years ago

    You two should sit down in a classroom full of teenagers to prevent unplanned pregnancy. I'm 23 years old and this is the kind of shit that scares me the most. Giving birth to a child only to worry of their future and what they become.

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