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Anybody think their personality is a curse? I feel like my personality is so counterintuitive to what I want but at the same time I can't do anything to change it. I don't know of anyone where this is even a thought to them and other people seem to be so unapologetically themselves . Why do I have to be burdened with these kinds of thoughts.
I don't remember where I heard this, but something like that writers are often the people who struggle the most with writing. I think that can be expanded to other situations. Sometimes I feel like you described, but when I'm less pessimistic I wonder if it's not actually because I care so much about the things I want that I have so much difficulty. Because I judge myself more harshly, and I'm more afraid of messing up.
In other words, "the obstacle is the way."
I was actually thinking about this last night with regards to attachment styles in relationships, the way that people often end up with those who most heavily trigger their issues. And how these are actually some of the relationships with the most potential for personal growth if both of the people are of the right mindset. Although they are also often the most high conflict.
I don't know what I'm really trying to say there. I guess I think some of us are just on a different path, and it may or may not be a harder path in certain ways. But things that are harder to get are also more rewarding to get. If there are people who really do have easier lives, maybe they are missing out on truly being able to appreciate it.
What you think is something about your personality being counterintuitive to what you want, might actually be that you are uniquely suited to it.
What you said about harder things being more rewarding really resonated with me. I have always envied people who are smarter, better looking, more athletic, etc, etc, but what you said made me look at things differently so thank you. Your last point is oddly true as well because although I am more of an introvert, I have always been someone who has gotten along with everyone I meet as well as been someone who people find funny. I guess I am my own worst enemy and the thing that is really counterintuitive is my self-sabotaging mindset. I got to find a way to fix it. Thank you for your comment. It changed my perspective and helped me see things in a different light.
Yes.
But to be truly happy you have to come to terms with yourself and accept who you are. Finding likeminded people and talking to them might be helpful.
Yeah it's hard for me to talk about this stuff because i've never been the person to do so, because I don't want to be that buzzkill person. Most of all though is that I don't want people to look at me differently or think less of me if I do talk about this kind of stuff.
Well I personally think, I could have a better personality because sometimes I feel like sometimes I have an a-hole type personality.