Is it normal to wish to have had a happy childhood?

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This question is for the lonesome souls out there who understand and if such reocurring thoughts are normal. I often am envious when i see happy children with their loving supporting parents, often bitter at my own raising. I often go for a walk around some neighborhoods, usually around dinnertime in the evening, and linger close by windows, only to absorb and become a part of such a warm loving family. sometimes i can smell their dinner and become very sad at the quality time i never had with my family. To the now adults who had a void meaningless unloving childhood, is this normal?

Is it normal to wish to go back in time and wish to be nourished by a strong self esteem, and love, to have the confidence and peace of mind today? I think about this alot and it depresses me, i wonder if people who have been abused as a child/had a bad childhood,if these thoughts haunt you to this day as an adult? Or how does itinfluence who you are today?

Or am i just being weak and need to get over it thats life?

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    my childhood was good but I was abused as a teen, I had a hard time starting out in the workforce due to alcoholic abusive bosses who ripped me off. My parents were mainly absent during this time.
    I think its given me a steely resolve and an ambition to help teenagers and reverse my negative experiences into positive ones for other people. This helps exorcise those demons. You have to be selfless, not selfish, don't dwell. If you have any interactions with kids, go and make a kid's day. You can share a smile together and therein lies the therapy.

    You just gotta find ways to flip the negative to a positive.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    You're making it worse by dwelling on it. You can't change the past so there's no use in replaying the sadness over and over. Of course its depressing but you're doing it to yourself. You'll never be able to move on until you move on. So get going!!! Now!!!

    P.S. don't peer into peoples windows!

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I peer into peoples windows. Want to see something really scary?

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  • MissDethstar
    10 years ago

    Yes,it haunt me too. I'd say it's normal, every child who was abused or neglected share this wish.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Yes, it's normal to want to have had a good childhood. I didn't read your whole story, but I think as you get older and get stronger, you may try to focus in the present and look forward to a brighter future. It's easier said than done, but it can be done. Keep the faith

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  • QuitePossiblyInsane
    10 years ago

    It's totally normal, but keep in mind that your past experiences make you who you are today.
    Make a list of everything you like about your life now. Anywhere from five to ten things you -really- like. Not appearance, just personality, and friends you have, and hobbies you enjoy. Then think about if you would have any of them if you had the stereotypical "normal" childhood.

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  • throat_cutter
    10 years ago

    Just dont peer into people's windows because then you'll really look creepy

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  • Shroot
    10 years ago

    well no one wishes they had a bad childhood....??

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