Is it normal to wish that others had my mother's bad past

instead of her ?

is it normal that i wish that my father (and other people like her friends or my friends mothers )had my mother's bad past instead of my mother? , .My mother had a very difficult childhood and youth , her mother passed away when she was 6 , her father remarried a very cold step wife and they had kids who stayed wth him and thier mother in his house ,and he sent my mother and her siblings to a boarding school were nuns treated her badly ,among lots of other sad and difficult things (I am surprised that she turned out well and sane ), her father rarely asked about her , she then got married to my father who had anger issues and rages alot and is verbally abusive .
Also part of why i wish my mother had a different past , is because she would have turned different in a way i lke , and it reflected on me and my upbringing .

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Comments ( 9 )
  • joybird

    Are you saying that you don't like her?

    My mom has moaned every day that her life would've been different if her dad had lived. Yeah right! How the hell does she know that? He dies when she was 7 yo. So I say, Move on and get a flippin' life!

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    • no i am saying that i love her that's why i wish her past was different , yet also i am angry because if she had a different past perhaps i would have turned different in a good way .

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      • joybird

        Why? Do you think that her past somehow made you a bad person?

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  • Alot of mothers have it worse than this. It's a common thing.

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  • sissycakes

    no, that is terrible. not everyone is the same, and not everyone reacts in the same way.

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  • Your mom might not be the person she is today if not for her past.

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  • ebonysky

    Your mother us who she is because of her past. If it didn't happen she may not be what you think she will be

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  • it is different but it is your different

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    • I don't get what you mean ..

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