Is it normal to wish i never had my son?

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Is it normal that I wished I never had my son? Don't get me wrong I love him to death, but I can't help but to wish he was never born. I need to give a backstory, so that you can understand where I'm coming from. The father is not in the picture, to be completely honest it's better that way. I dated him for 7 months only to find out he was a felon (for something really bad), we ended breaking up and a week later I found out I was pregnant. I have dealt with depression for as long as I can remember, and while I was pregnant I was able to cope. The minute I had my son, it all hit me. I had severe post part which I still feel like I'm dealing with (my son will be 1 next month). He is so active and strong and bratty (like every child his age) but I just finding myself not being able to deal. I feel disconnected to him, and I feel like such a horrible mother for feeling this way. Please tell me this is normal and it will'll eventually go away. I don't know what to do.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    Talk to a doctor about post partum depression. It can be brutal. Do you have family or friends that can help?

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  • icameinouterspace
    8 years ago

    Let me guess....you found out that your sons father was a sex offender or something.

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    Yes talk to your doctor / psychiatrist / therapist.
    Maybe if you have relatives see if they can take your son in for a while so you can still be able to see him. I know depression is really hard but your son loves you so much your his mother. And his dad isn't in his life he needs you he looks up to you. You say he's so strong but so are you. And you can get through this rough patch in your life.

    If you still feel this way after a while, maybe look into adoption and try to find a good home for your son. And try to get open adoption so that you are able to see him on occasions. Or maybe a family member of yours may be interested in adopting him as well. But please don't give up yet. Get help first. <3

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  • Unimportant
    8 years ago

    I don't think it's unnormal to have these thoughts from time to time.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I think you are suffering from a post partum depression as the first comment mentions . I would suggest ( like the above users have ) getting treatment . I just want to confirm or be another support system with these peoples it stands out more to you and becomes more clear that this would be a good and necessary option for you . I think because of what happened with the father and feeling alone and the child being new to you etc. it's all just overwhelming along with what happened chemically and giving birth . It all adds up until it just feels like a weight you can't lift .. this is when these thoughts begin . I think you will be okay sweet heart and I know you have it in you to overcome this! you are a strong , beautiful unique woman with a wonderful gift of life that's yours and for you to raise to be happy and healthy with you ! please get some professional advice and help so you can begin your beautiful journey down the path of life and motherhood :D

    stay strong and if you need to talk to anyone outside of the professionals .. we will be here !

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  • stressedout1
    8 years ago

    My family helps in terms of watching him for a couple hours here or there, but as far as financially, or emotionally (in terms of me) no. It doesn't help that I've never felt like my son loves me. I know it sounds silly, but I feel like he loves my mom more than me...and as idiotic as it is, it hurts my feelings.

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