Is it normal to want your adult child to not come back home?

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My daughter is attending college out of state. She says she wants to come back home after graduating. The thing is, she has a great job in the field she is studying in. She just doesnt like the winters there. Way toooo cold.

I love her with all my heart, but we get along better when we don't live together. I feel terrible thinking I want her to stay there.

Has anyone else encountered this?
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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    I think it would be ok to let her know that you would prefer if she made it on her own. Perhaps throw in a "I'm there if you need me" but also make it clear that she is old enough to take care of herself now.

    Sometimes people need a hand in rough times, but some kids just never leave home.

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    WOOOW because of the COLD? ill take her job if she doesnt want it, shiiiit

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    • flutterhigh
      12 years ago

      Good, we need more soccer-themed prostitutes.

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      • SoccerStud88
        12 years ago

        looky here, its the same person who commented on my other post ;)

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    send her some money so she can live there. That way you don't end up hating each other.

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    My cousin bought an investment unit, lived in it for 6 mths and moved back in with my aunt and uncle. She turned 28 this year....and her bf of 7 years chose his mates to live with him over her, saying he feels bad to kick them out. Hrmmm... I wonder if the problem is the bf or her choice to not move out of her parents place.

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  • Merkree
    12 years ago

    I had the same feelings with one of my kids. It is pretty normal but it sure makes for a lot of parental guilt. For me, not allowing him to come back was the lesser of two evils. I've learned to live with it.

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  • ck38
    12 years ago

    Yup, don't let her back. She's all grown up now.

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    Tell her that unless she's super poor and starving for days then she can manage on her own.

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