Is it normal to want to 'test' a significant other?

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I've seen a lot of people say they were a lot of things and then contradict themselves.

My S.O. told me that he wasn't the jealous type and rarely got angry.

I immediately become skeptical and part of me wants to say, "Prove it". Is it wrong to want to test him just a little to see if he's being truthful or not?

(Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to purposely flirt with other guys just to see how he responds, that would lose a lot of trust)

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  • itsmetheuglykid
    8 years ago

    If you want to test him, you do not trust him. Has he given you a reason not to trust him in the past?

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Test away, I say! If they pass, they gets a**, and if they fail, they gets no tail!

    Sorry.

    Seriously, there's nothing wrong with a little, innocent testing, especially if it's based on true circumstance. I have been betrayed by people in the past and now have trust issues with everyone at first. I seem very open but actually keep a lot to myself until I get to know people because when I get hurt it's pretty devastating. So to protect my feelings, shortly after I meet someone I begin bonding with, I have tested them on occasion. I have "tested" new friends, co-workers, fellow students, and love interests, usually with a small, insignificant (but real) secret, and then I wait to see if it gets out. If they don't keep it, it comes back to me pretty quickly. If they do, I never hear it, and until I do, I continue building trust with them by being more and more open. It's not foolproof, but it has helped avoid some potential toxic relationships in my life.

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  • Mebeskye
    10 years ago

    I say who cares if he is the jealous type, as long as he cares for you it shouldn't matter. I'm not a big fan of "games" like that and that will probably stir up unwanted trouble.

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    You may want to "test", but there is no need. All those things will happen on there own eventually.

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  • TareBear20
    12 years ago

    Never "test" a significant other. That will cause some major trust issues.

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    Trust.

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  • Idontpulloutmycouchdoes
    12 years ago

    Id say its pretty normal, of course if your thinking about being with someone for the rest of your life you are curious of how they really are and act in certain situations. If you really want to "test" him and cant until the time comes naturally id suggest doing something extremely mild, nothing crazy haha. Hope this helps

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