Is it normal to want to tell the world you're in love?

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The urge to tell everyone when one is first in love seems to be very common, even when revealing the relationship could be detrimental to one or both parties.

In the instance I'm thinking of now, there's a huge age gap (male much younger) and the woman is reasonably well known publicly.

I think the urge has two causes: the need for validation from others and the effect of oxytocin, the "trust" hormone.

What do is it normal users think?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Yep thats normal but there are so many FUCKHEADs in the world that would probably just try to shoot you down.

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    It's stupid to feel the need to tell random strangers about the intriquite details of your personal life. It's normal to tell those who care about you.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Who are you calling stupid? I didn't say anything about broadcasting intricate details to strangers, I was talking about the URGE to tell others about a new relationship and wondering where it comes from

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    I just have to share this with all you wonderful IIN people: thanks partly to all your positive responses and also being very very slightly alcohol and weed affected yesterday, I confided in a few friends about my new age gap relationship. I received only positive feedback (thanks tribe!) plus this question from one friend, who was admittedly quite strongly alcohol & weed affected: "Which way does the age gap go?"

    She knows I'm 68 .... after I'd stopped laughing I asked her did she really think I was involved with a 108 year old bloke? Still laughing writing this, hope it brings smiles to your faces

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  • joolia03
    9 years ago

    It depends but from personal experience, I know its not for validation. I am very familiar with this feeling right now and when he comes up, I love talking about him and how much he means to me. However, we haven't displayed it like on social media like "facebook official" or lovey dovey photos on Instagram. I would love to but keeping your precious relationship private is not a bad idea when others love getting into your business. I know low-key relationships are happier.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      I don't think there's any question of putting the relationship on social media, so I suppose it's achieving a balance between keeping some things private but also wanting to share happiness.

      No sure what you mean by "low-key relationships" because this one isn't low-key in any sense

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I wanted to shout it from the rooftops but, I didn't. I did write about it on my blog. It had nothing to do with validation because, I don't need it. You shouldn't look to others for validation when it comes to love.

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      It's not validation for the love I'm talking about, how ridiculous would that be? Validation for the relationship in other people's eyes though, is an entirely different matter ........ Isn't that why people get married or have commitment ceremonies?

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    I think you mostly want to share your happyness.

    Why would you hid a relationship unless its shady?

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      Not shady, although I don't really know what you mean by that - not adulterous, if that's what you mean, but liable to be judged because of the huge age gap, not that either one would give a stuff about such people. And there is a big difference between hiding something and telling the world, don't you think?

      There's no shame or embarrassment on the part of either party and both are so happy about they want, as I said, to "tell the world" ... I'm just interested to know what other people think is the reason for that, because my impression is that most people do feel like telling the world when they're in love.

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        If I share things like that its because I am happy.

        Shady I ment... underage...adulterous... ashamed.
        or this one guy had his gf hid their relationship from family and friends all in a plot to kill her.... I watch a lot of murder documentaries lol.

        If you dont mind me asking what is the age gap?
        My mom married a guy that was 10 years younger then her...and he was 9 years older then me lol

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        • Ellenna
          9 years ago

          Maybe it is as simple as that, to want to share happiness ...

          Umm hope you're sitting down, the age gap is 40 years - 28 yo bloke and 68 yo woman

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          • reminiscent
            9 years ago

            That is a large gap.
            but I have seen such couples on tv showes before. As long as they are happy.

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            • Ellenna
              9 years ago

              On TV shows? Really? What, those shows lining up so called freaks or what?

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