Is it normal to want to slow down the relationship?

I'm asking this because i feel that I'm not being careful enough with us and I don't want to take things too quickly. This is my first actual relationship where I feel real love between us.. (Counting that it's only been 3 months so it's still early) I like to consider myself a long term lover.. Dating in general to me and also in my opinion.. Means that once you decided that you're in a relationship (including his/her word too), then you're "tied"; in a sense. So far.. as of TMI info.. I've reached 3rd base and I just want to slow things down cause it's like.. Okay.. I've gotten this far so early.. and it's like.. I don't wanna f*** things up and her acting distant towards me cause she isn't comfortable with herself and with me performing certain actions. I notice her body actions to my actions telling me it's okay and also her face too.

Sigh.. I'm just lost in my thinking.. where do i go with this? I figured.. I should hold off the sexual touching for another month.. You know.. slowly going for "gold" (down below) or "silver" (tops). The most I'd do now is a bodily massage. Not ignoring those areas, but just touching on if not around the area and not touching it longer than a minute or so.

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  • ccjigsaw

    I think as long as you don't avoid being sexual with her in general, by all means, drag it out. It sounded like you were touching and having fun and whatnot, so it should be okay. What gets frustrating is when she's begging you to touch her but all you do is make out lol You'll be fine. And with what you guys are doing now, you'll definitely feel ready and eager.

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    • NorthC

      Haha! Tell me about it!
      We usually don't have much time for play cause we're usually into our studies.

      Any time that i just would like to make out with her, someone always come and interrupts.

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  • Sog

    Kids these days... bleh...

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    • NorthC

      Baby Boomers. Your generation is just about up.

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  • ygrowup

    If the two of you are mature enough then you should communicate better and know each others wants and desires. If you don't , than maybe one or both of you are not mature enough for the next level. So wait till you both are.

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  • Justsomejerk

    Would I be stupid for giving you advice here or would you be stupid to take it?

    If she wants to have sex and you pussy foot about for another three months, then she sleeps with Fabio Von Penis because of us giving you shitty advice nobody wins (except Fabio).

    I'm an adult with little interest in baseball so I'm unsure of what 3rd base is.

    I'm not trying to be a dick but none of us know what she wants. If you aren't ready to have sex than that's fair enough but if you're just holding off because of what you guess she may or may not want you really should just talk to her.

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    • NorthC

      Basically.. I was trying say "I'm not ready"

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      • Justsomejerk

        Oh, we'll that's cool then.

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        • NorthC

          Also..! I figured. Since i'm 18 now.. (As of Jan 1st)
          She's 16 and will be 17 (Fall), I'm thinking i should wait anyways. We'll be a year in the relationship basically and .. I'd still be respecting her, her family, and mine as well.

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  • curiouskate101

    there is deffently nothing wrong with that!!! girls love guys who has the brain enough to be able to wait and not rush things it makes us think your not in it for the sex which you shouldnt be. if shes not okay witht this shes a thirsty hoe but if shes a decent girl shell love you for respecting her as much as it sounds like you do :) good luck

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  • Mando

    You better send a positive message to your date soon or forget it.

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    • NorthC

      Already in progress,bro. :P
      I'm keeping a positive attitude and just easing off her.

      Oddly i just like to touch her in general.

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