Is it normal to want to skip dating/marriage and adopt?

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Since my senior year in high school, I've really wanted a daughter. Now I'm in college (20yr old) and I'm realizing that adoption is something I'd really love to do soon after college. I would love to raise children more than dating, falling in love, and marrying -- although I still want to do these things after. I think that raising a girl would help bring out the best in me. Until that side of me comes out, I don't think I'll be able to provide love for a woman in a relationship. I can barely even bring myself to go for girls my age -- I've had a rough history of trying to fulfill my first kiss, only now realizing that its a milestone set by society for boys. I could go on, but I'd like to hear what you think.

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  • coolboybeebles
    7 years ago

    That's interesting. It's different but seems normal to me. Do you have the money to adopt, as it can be expensive? You'll need to be able to take care of her and if you are working alone that can make things really difficult, at her expense. Why a daughter specifically? I hear girls are a pain in the ass to raise, boys are apparently more managable. You should spend the next few years doing more research and prepare your life for this - it's not like getting a puppy, obviously. This is a life that you will be responsible for, as her protector, mentor, and friend. I'm not trying to discourage you or assume you don't know anything, but this is a serious commitment so I figure you should at least be fiscally, mentally, and socially prepared for it (and, admittedly, asking IIN our opinion leads me to think that you are not yet there).

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You haven't said one word about how your adoption plan would benefit the child and what you would be giving to her: it's not just about you and you come across as wanting this for totally selfish reasons.

    Have you ever looked after a small baby or child for any length of time? Maybe you should try some free babysitting and check out what it's actually like, and then have a think about the reality of that as a full time responsibility.

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  • ojimpu
    6 years ago

    Are you doing this for yourself? Think about it.

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