Is it normal to want to skip dating?

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I have this idea/feeling.. that I don't want to go through the whole dating part, and just get married already. I want to be a wife, a proper housewife doing all the chores and take care of the children, and stuff. I've felt this way since I were 15, and I just turned 21. I've never really been interested in having a boyfriend, I just want a husband. Love is something I want, but I think it's not necessary at first, like it's something that can develop later. I do understand why people go on dates, but I feel that dating is not for me. Does this make any sense?

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  • Juche1
    14 years ago

    Great another coward who instead of debating the points I bring up in my comments just deletes them.

    I will be adding coward, fascist and traitor to women's rights Inanna to my enemy list.

    DEATH TO OUR ENEMIES
    LONG LIVE JUCHE

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  • chronsweet
    14 years ago

    ummm, dating helps you get to know a person. how could you just learn to love someone who is abusive verbally or physically, or who doesn't pay attention to you, or whom neither of you have any attraction mentally or physically to one another.
    i wouldn't say it isn't normal per se as we are all entitled to our own opinion, but i would recommend embracing the fact that you haven't been married yet and the fact that you have a chance to find someone thru dating whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with.
    Be glad you don't live in a country or time period where arranged marriage exists where so many women (and men) end up in worthless unhappy situations. Try to embrace the fact that you have a choice in the matter.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    well, dating is a way to get to know a person. dating doesn't have to be formal, it's just being with a person and doing things to get to know them.

    how else are you going to get a husband? are you thinking of some sort of arranged marriage?

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    You have to crawl before you can walk on your hands backwards on a tightrope. If you don't get to know someone a marriage will never work, and you have to know someone really well before you can handle living with them. Trust me, if you rush to the finish you won't be able to enjoy any of the good detours and attractions and hot dog stands on the metaphorical road of life.

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  • thegift
    12 years ago

    Skip the dating and jump straight to the fvckin. Now that's what im talking about!

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  • Abtanazahx
    13 years ago

    Arranged marriage. You can find people that will set it all up for you.

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  • gabface19
    14 years ago

    lol!! I love that I found this post! I sometimes wish I could just already be there too, already be in a secure relationship etc and MARRIED.. This feeling is probably for commitment people ^_^
    And I agree hotchickie, I would have loved to be a housewife but that stupid economy...

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago

    Totally makes sense. I wish you the best of luck! :) I really wish I could be a housewife, but with today's economy, there's no way that's going to happen for me. Makes me sad cause I'm 27, and I probably won't be able to afford to have kids until well into my 30s... if ever :(

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  • Jason1980
    14 years ago

    It's neat that you're so interested in being a wife and mother at such a young age, and there's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure you don't rush into it, because the idea of marriage and parenthood is simpler than the real thing. And if you don't know yourself before becoming devoted to a husband and family, you could be in for some problems. If you don't want to call it dating, just think of it as hanging out or getting to know someone. If you haven't already tried them, online relationship sites might be something you want to try (eHarmony, pefectmatch, etc). They can give you a chance to really get to know someone before you even meet in person. Good luck.

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  • iHatemF
    14 years ago

    You, fair lady are asking for an arranged marriage.

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  • amberinboston
    14 years ago

    I understand your feelings. Dating can be a fun way to get to know men, but it also leads to endless failed romances and nothing lasting. You're looking for security and lasting love versus just going out and having "fun".

    I'm at that stage too. And I've also always wanted to be a wife.
    I've already been married and it failed, but I hope to remarry someday and have what you describe as your dream as well.

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    • Inanna
      14 years ago

      Yes! I totally understand that going on dates and spending time together like that is a good way to get to know someone. And just as you said, I'm not looking for just having fun.

      I know exactly what I want, and I don't think I'm asking too much. I've had a lot of time, years in fact, to think about this. I just want to be a good wife, loving and supporting. Well, the most important thing for me is having children, preferably sooner rather than later!

      I guess going on a date with someone, who is as serious about marriage and having children would be great. There would be a greater chance of it leading to what I want.

      I do hope I'm not too idealistic about this. :)

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