Is it normal to want to save sex for marriage?

Also, if a guy isn't willing to respect your decision and wait for you he's not the right guy. If he truly loves you, then no matter what he will wait.

Right here! I'm saving sex for marriage as well. Who cares what others think, this is a personal decision only you can make. To me sex means something more than, well just sex. Nowadays teenagers have sex for the heck of it. Never feel like you're the only one, there are plenty of people waiting too :)

That's just shit if a guy loves you enough he will respect your decision.Don't give 2 fucks about society either!!!!

I don't think I'll wait for marraige but I don't plan on sleeping around. 1 or 2 partners is my ideal. I am a male speaking here.
Totally normal if you ask me anyway

I didn't save myself for marriage. I had multiple sexual partners before my husband.

I have no children, I am a college student with a great GPA, I have a job, I pay my bills, I am a responsible adult and my husband and I have a great relationship.

"Or is society so fucked that I'm the only one?"

Sorry, ma'am. But I don't think that sex alone if what is causing society's problems. I'm fucked all of the time. But I am doing no harm to society. Try again.

I find sex to be very meaningful and I prefer it that way, but I haven't saved myself for marriage. I'm not a huge fan of the hollywood "soulmate" myth, and I've had deep and passionate experiences with several people.

I'm not really into the mythicism of sex, but you're free to wait until marriage.

I think this is normal, as in it happens a lot. And as many of the posters have commented, from what I've noticed it happens more with girls than with boys.

Normalcy aside, I do not think it is healthy, or fair to the person you are dating. What's really in a virgin situation? A heap of awkward communication, awkward noises, short duration, and apologies hahaha. Good times.

Pretending I want to marry you (despite this hang-up, I'm sure you're awesome): why would I want to commit to someone who can't give me everything? Why should I wait for vagina like its a trophy? Marriage is just a lawful recognition of what was hopefully there already--love. Well, its that and a lot of legally binding proprietary and financial documents.

If someone can't have sex, I've noticed (after having dated three virgins) that there are several emotional and belief-centered things that they hold back from me, like these things, along with the sanctity of their vaginas, are held at their core.

Love fully. Give yourself fully.

That said, it is totally normal to wait on sex. I'm at the point where I want to have been dating the person for a couple of months and really be able to envision whether or not we'll work out in the long term.

Marriage is a sham, why not wait till you're with someone you really like, get to know each other for a few months and decide if that's the person you want to have a sexual relationship with. Trust me, sex can change EVERYthing in a relationship if you make it such a big deal.
I'm not saying sleep around like a whore, just don't treat sex as a symbolic thing, that usually goes wrong.
Well if waiting to get lawfully united before indulging in sweet coitus means a lot to you, don't be alarmed when it gets awkward.

Society is "so fucked" because it doesn't share your views.

Sure. It is fine. Most men prefer a virgin for a wife (even though we know NOT to tell women that). We see more value in a woman who hasn't slept with other men.

I am a teenage boy, and as a christian I too believe that intercourse should be reserved for married couples. By that I don't mean kissing or even cuddling, but the full works (sex).
It will be hard, but by having such standards you are filtering out all the perverts who only want you for your body, and can be pretty sure that whoever you get into a relation ship with does genuinely love you.
I hope you manage to stick to your guns and don't give in.

I'm a guy and I saved it for marriage-- well, almost. I saved it until I met someone I wanted to marry :). And if she had wanted to wait until we were actually married, I would've had no problem with that.

Really though would it be any different if it happened before or after the marriage? I agree with uPSIDEOFDOWn that "Marriage is just a lawful recognition of what was hopefully there already--love.". Marriage isn't something that magically changes a relationship.

Anyway. I wanted to wait until I found the right person, the person I knew I'd want to be with forever. So I think there is hope for you :)

It's normal. My boyfriend and I are waiting until we get married to have sex. There are many guys I know who aim for the same thing only because they know, as I, it's something individuals can't easily go out and do. I mean you can just go have "casual sex", but in the long run it can have a negative effect on an individual and their intimate life if they take the matter as such.

Normal is the norm. It is not normal to save yourself for marriage but it is a really beautiful thing.

For an atheist, you really sound like a Barlow Girl.

How do you know if you compatable in the bedroom, have sex you stupid woman, or are you just using that as an excuse because your not very sexual

If my girlfriend told me that, I'd certainly wait for her, whatever she wants.

I meet my wife at 14. N I was 18. We got married 4 1/2 yrs later she made 18 N I was 22 we both was virgins shes the only girl i took out on a Date just made 39 yrs on our Anniversary I wouldnt had it any other way. Think about it. It something you could cherrish rest of your life.Good Luck.

While there is nothing wrong with wanting to wait to have sex until you are married, I feel that most of the young people who have that goal eventually lose sight of it. At age thirteen, it's a pretty common; by about age seventeen, most teens have had their sex drive kick in, and those hormones change their decisions.

I used to be one of those kids who doubted that she would have premarital sex. It just seemed to have so many downsides. But then, within a few years, my libido kicked in. Even though I have still not experienced most sexual acts, those urges really make it harder to wait.

I applaud your decision, and I want you to go for it! Don't let anyone pressure you into sex. :)

I'm 17 and save sex till I'm married too it just seem more safe and romance that way

I think it is absolutely normal, go you!! Do what makes you happy. It is your decision, and yours only. Sex is a huge thing. Don't let anyone make you feel bad or less than they are, for being strong enough to wait and holding true to your values.

well then you have no risk of an std (unless you share needles; NEVER DO DRUGS!)

Yeah man. I don't want to have sex until I'm married either. I even try to minimize the masturbation so I can enjoy it fully with my wife. People treat sex too liberally these days IMO and while I don't agree with the religious conservative position, I think people need to get a bit more tame before screwing every girl in sight.

Is there any particular reason you feel that way?

For me personally, it doesn't matter. As long as both people in the relationship love each other and have sex responsibly, of course.

It's completely normal, and an admirable trait! Although it will be tougher to find a guy who is willing to wait. Sucks that people are like that!

Good for you! That's how you will find a good guy that is worth marrying! More people need to practice this!

Seriously, get over yourself and your ill-informed view of the world you were poisoned with.

What if you marry a guy then find out he is awful in bed, and you have to live the rest of your life having bad sex? And worst of all... what if you NEVER have an orgasm :O