Is it normal to want to quit?

Is it normal to be sick of your kids? My marriage was arranged by my parents. I was a naive teenager and had 2 children without really understanding what level of responsibility comes with having children. I'm now 30 and have been working and raising children for as long as I can remember. My husband is an idiot but apparently its "best for the children" to be raised in a "stable" environment. I work and am fully responsible for the kids. I have to rearrange my work around school runs, matches and any other event in their lives. I just want to know if I will stop feeling like I want to quit. Every simple little task is so much hard work. If I ask them to get up for school they will always take so long that its a rush to get to school on time. Homework is a headache and meal times. Then the kids are constantly arguing over who has played longer on the playstation or who's football team is the best. Worst of all they are so greedy, they want anything and everything. I keep trying to tell them that I can't afford to buy them everything they want and that somethings they can have and some are just too expensive but then they look at me like I'm the worst mum in the world. I hate my kids, if I could go back in time and sterilise myself as a teen I would. If I was a quitter I would quit life but quitting is selfish as who would put up with my crazy kids? I know this much God definitely has a sense of humour as my life is a joke.

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Based on 49 votes (37 yes)
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  • tori

    I'm with you here. My kids are adults now but I went through the same things you are now. Even though I am married (btw, any dad around for you?) I felt like a single mother. I got 4 hours of sleep every night. My husband would get home from work at 10pm and I wanted to see him too. I stretched myself way too thin. No family members wanted to babysit. It was all on me. The kids fighting was awful. I hated being a referee. I got the EYES and attitude also about material things. But you know what. It warms my heart now when they say I did a good job. Chin up! We have to be the bad guys sometimes. We aren't their best friends. I feel for you. My heart aches for you. It will get better.

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  • moomus

    I think your husband is somewhere to blame. Where's the support?

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  • amili

    I feel so sad for you. You sound like a woman in despair and I am afraid I wouldn't know how to respond. All I can say is being in a relationship you are bot happy with is so not worth it. Lots of men and women live completely happy And fulfilled lives as single parents and many even find someone they truly love inthe end. Just hang in there, maybe try some councelling or somethig it may help a little. I wish you luck.

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  • Steve92

    I dont know about quitting my family, but I am quitting IIN. This is my second from last comment!

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    • peterrabbyt3

      Good, we won't miss you.

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  • Hooviva

    Logic time: I said to a child stranger the mother doesn't have to mind his business and he was in his own world happy, not wanting stuff from his mother. Asking how long one has played a Playstation or asking about football is jolly good. We all always want something and hating your kids is the rational thing to do considering that you never get any 'me' time.

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