Is it normal to want to move out but not break up?

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I've never really had the chance to just be fully independent. When I was old enough to move out of my mom's house I just moved in with my boyfriend. We've lived togethor for a year now. Things are going well and we love each other, but I'd just like to have the chance to have my own apartment. I'd like to just make my own decisions completely without always having someone else to consider. I don't want to break up with him, I'd want us to still be togethor, I'd just like to be on my own for once. I havn't brought this up with him yet. Is it normal?

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Tell him how you feel. I'm sure there's a way you could explain it to him without hurting his feelings and ruining the relationship.

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  • andrian007
    11 years ago

    I think your desire to be independent for once is a perfectly reasonable one. Every guy is different. He may be able to handle it and he may not. But there's only one way to find out. The secret to a good relationship is open and honest communication. This is the time to prove it. Good luck.

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    I tried that with the first boyfriend I lived with. We called each other husband and wife, had a dog together, wore rings and all, had a theater group together, etc; but I needed the space, physical space. We spent no time apart. So he moved out. It didn't work. He was convinced I was cheating on him. I wasn't.

    If you do it carefully, I still think it can work. Think about your reasons for doing it. Are you sure you still want to be with him? In hindsight, I'm not sure I wanted to. :/

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  • mikafor
    11 years ago

    You just want to do that so you know you can.

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