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I really love my boyfriend and I want to move in with him. He wants to move in with me too, we were just curious what the internet thought.
Normal or not?
seems fine to me. 8 months should be plenty of time to get to know someone well enough to start thinking about moving in. I'd say at least 2 months of actively dating someone is a comfortable time to suggest living together. But it's really up to you. everyone has their own pace.
Eight months? I've had girls move in after a great weekend at a concert or even a great night. Some worked out well, others, not so much.
What have you got to lose?
It's normal to WANT to do this, but not normal to actually DO it. Why give up your independence when you aren't yet engaged or married to the person? I made that mistake twice -- when I thought I was ready and truly believed both guys were "The One" -- it ruined the relationship because we weren't officially committed to each other. When in doubt, give it more time.
What do you have to lose if you move in? Essentially, everything. What do you have to lose if you wait? Nothing.
I read a quote somewhere that "You'll never wish you'd cohabited sooner". So true. If you haven't done it yet, it may feel like agony waiting. But just try to imagine how it could be down the line. The last thing you want is to get in a big fight with your SO and have no where to go to cool off because you both live there. You may end up feeling the walls closing in on you.
Take it from someone who's been there, twice. Forewarned is forearmed!!
Just out of curiosity and not to be argumentative, what would more time have done to stop the troubles you had? I just don't understand how living together was what destroyed the relationships. If you couldn't be together that much after 8 months, what difference would 2 years have made?
If two mature adults are compatible, then living together should bring them closer together, not push them apart.
Did you ever end up living with anybody, successfully?
Have to agree with GypsySailor here...Maybe you just havent found the right person to move in with or you've moved in too soon. We're moving in together to GAIN independence as a couple, and to grow and learn together.
Neither of us is controlling, both of us are committed completely. Sometimes we fight, yes, but there are plenty of streets for cool off air, and friends houses to crash at if it gets really bad. Generally though we only fight over misunderstandings/misinterpretations and we clear it up quickly, make up, and move on.
I think in our case we WOULD actually wish we moved in together sooner, since we could save $300+ more a week just by living in the same house - effectively building/saving for our future earlier :).