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Not to mope or anything but my life has been one Hell of a journey. I am going back to college next week and eventually want to settle down in my own place. I find it hard to find a boyfriend because none of the guys that I know like me are as ambitous as I am. I want a hard working man. I am an 18 year old female. is it normal to want to start over?
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I'm not 18 and not female but I want to move away too. It's soul-sucking here. I just want to get away and for my real life to begin.
To both dappled and the OP....
do it, take a chance but act wisely with it.
I walked out of a 20 year job and career, left a 10 year relationship, rented my house out and totally left the area.
It was very hard, but it was still the best thing I ever did! People told me I was crazy, mad, insane, yet brave. So many people said they wished they had the courage to do the same.
You only live once, make the most of it and aim to be happy.
I'm single and the only ties I have here are my friends. If I had savings enough to resettle, I'm pretty sure I would. Although my family have been here for at least a thousand years, and probably much longer. Maybe I'm attempting to run away from myself, rather than the locale.
For me it was running from myself as much as anything else, I was barely hanging on by my fingernails. Sometimes there is only one option to save your sanity!
I have to say I have lost part of me, but I am still happier than I was. Probably doesn't make sense lol. The only person who can make that decision is you, but it should be for the right reasons or with the right goal in mind. Work is the hardest thing, I went a whole month without a job only just scraped through.
I moved about 15 months ago and my life changed quite a bit. I thought it was going to be a new chapter, and it was, but I still feel like I'm on a knife-edge. It's something inside me that needs to change. You can outdistance what is running after you, but not what is running inside you.
I'll get there. If I force myself to. Thank you, by the way.
I think we all go through that, even the happiest and most successful.
The question is whether you'll find the willpower to fix it or stay the same out of fear that the change will destroy you.
I've wanted to start over so many times. Sometimes I think if I did drive, I would just pack up what I need and hit the road, going wherever I want to go. But then reality hits me again >.< XD
make sure you are leaving for the right reasons, because you will never run away from your problems or yourself
I hate things here. I feel your need to get away and start over.
I would like to live in a quiet, secluded forest in somewhere like Sweden or Germany with the person I love, living an inconsequential life.
Well right now, I am having the ultimate faith struggle. After learning about Evolution earlier this year, it's hard to trust anything the Bible says.
My mom is a hoarder with a drunk for a boyfriend. She is 75 years old and stressed out most of the time. (She raised me from 4 days old.)
The foser care system has underpaid assholes working for them and the couldn't give less of a shit about the kids and teens who comeand go.
My car was repossesed because social service let out on their endof the deal.
If you're going to snatch me up at age 13 and put me into care you should then take the responsibilities of a parent. Its been 5 years and the system is a total fail.
I have moved 9 times in the last 5 years.
I jut want stability. Maybe me and dappled could start over together. ;)
Are you the girl who posted this?
Surely if you are 18 you can get out of the 'care system'?
You are right about social workers, they CAN'T care about every child they're involved with - or they'd go insane!
My friend fosters a teenage boy - rotten, arrogant, selfish, hormonal b@stard (like most teenagers). She's had him for many years, so I wonder why you keep being moved on? If you were hard working and ambitious I can't see why foster parents aren't queueing up for you.
Can I ask how you managed to afford driving lessons, a car and the insurance at the age of 18? I could only manage this at 25 when I had been working for a few years - coz no-one ever gave me anything for free!
BTW the Old Testament was written by people who tried to explain their knowledge of the world within their own scientific limits. The New Testament is more compassionate than the Old Testament harsh laws. I see no conflict with evolution - study more.
Yes, I am a female ;not that it matters.
Seems like you have it all figured out, huh? Unfortunately you suggestion are either ignorant or unrealistic.
If I were to sign out of the foster care system I will lose a much needed 5,000 dollars a year towards my tuition. They also, unwillingly give me a 644 dollar check each month. So that would be pure ignorance.
I'm pretty she he is not as bad as you present him to be. You are an outsider looking in who has no idea what its like to be in foster care. I am 18, almost 19, and foster parents are so eager to get me because I am not under the technical term "foster care" but independent living. For the summer and break from college I have to find somewhere to live. They removed me from my family for a reason. So I no longer stay with foster parents, oh mighty wise one.
So let's rule out the whole old testament? Its still various contraditions in the NT alone.
So what do other 18 year olds do for money in America for tuition etc if they are not foster kids and maybe have no parental assisstance? Maybe they do what I had to do and work my bloody way through university!!
You never did answer how you had a car?
The boy my pal fosters gets £16/week pocket money which is far too much! He spends it on drink and drugs, and refuses to go to jobs that the Social Services find for him - coz he justs wants to lie in bed all day! In the UK, the foster system will pay for him to have driving lessons and the insurance on a car £2,500! Eh? My pal's real son gets nothing at all. All coz the foster lad's mother decided to marry a convicted sex offender. Not the kid's fault - just a lousy mother, whom he adores (of course).
Anyhow, instead of whining about poor you, you should be more than grateful the taxpayer gives you so much. Consider other 18 year olds without your advantages! Maybe if you were out working 2 jobs to finance college you would meet a hard-working man!
Maybe just maybe, it's the chip on your shoulder that's weighing you down that stops you meeting someone.
Believe what you like about the Bible - I don't care.
You are very immature, get back to your books if you ever hope to get some qualifications - I doubt your personality alone would get you a job ;o)
I was also a tax payer. I have had several different jobs, in which I worked 2 of them earlier on this summer. I guess you totally ignored the fact that I have been moving a lot. (Hint, that's why I said I wanted to "settle down."
I thought the car was self explanatory. I received a scholarship that rolled over to money.
The US has a very different foster care system, especially in the core of the capital city so the two are uncomparable. Also, him and I are two different people so I stories are uncomparable.
I never said I wasn't greatful, not once. The money is definately not the issue with social services, the people are nasty, very nasty.
I've already made the Dean's list for the first term, now I will be in labs learning from the greatest chefs. Thanks for your input but it was not needed. :)
Im going through this too..I cant leave just yet but thats what I want to do when I turn 18 I want to start all over and well right now I'm living through hell just saying to myself that I'll get the chance to begin my life again when I can go far away from everything everyone I know and start again so just bare with evrything for now. I think it absolutely normal! everyone has a time when they feel that they just want to start over.
I meant to say yes but I accidently clicked no. I feel like this all the time.
You're normal. Do well in school, pursue your ambitions and dreams, and don't worry about "finding a guy," that's somewhat overrated and you need to establish yourself first and then fit him in. If you do it the other way around, you'll probably have to make too many compromises.
You will always think that the grass is greener on the other side, it rarely is.
Yea, it's pretty normal, even the ones who are attracted to you, either bore the brains out of you or aren't what you want. I can't tell you what to do, cause you can't fix a sinking boat if you decided to carpool? rather boatpool? Anywho, Same boat, different lakes.
I'm a year older than you, but I'm sort of the same way. Even though, I personally don't really want to run away (even though I've been having a lot of random drama recently), I consider this normal. A lot of people want more from their life and I don't blame you or anyone else for wanting the same.