Is it normal to want to make friends at the gym?

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When I go to the gym I always see these group of guys together working out and having laughs. I see them and I feel somewhat jealous because I don't have that male bond with any friends except for my cousin. I'd like to go over to them and start a conversation. The only thing is I'm apprehensive about what their reaction might be. One of the guys is a personal trainer and he has the physique of a bulldozer. He is an Omega (member of Omega Psi Phi Fraternity). At one point in time I wanted to be an Omega but was afraid of the whole process. I hope that one day I can sit down with him and gather more information about the fraternity.

I've seen lots of videos of personal trainers pounding out their female clients and I can't help but wonder if he actually does that or makes homemade videos. I can only imagine the loud thumping sound that must take over the bedroom when he has sex with a woman lol. I want to get to know him and build up the courage to ask him over time but I don't know how to start. Today he actually asked me how many sets I had left and when I was done he pointed out that my stance was incorrect when I was doing squats. He asked me what I was working out. At first I just wanted to say my glutes but I felt it was better to say hamstrings instead of telling another guy I'm working out my glutes. Anyway I want to have a friendship with this trainer but I've never even started a conversation with him? Is this normal?

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Over the past 6 years I have made some really close friends through the gym. Personal trainers like to boast about their 'knowledge' to anyone who will listen. If you see him on his own just ask him for some advice about working a particular muscle group, that's your starter conversation right there. It's easier to make friends with people who work out on their own as most guys like having a gym buddy.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    He sounds like a giant douche to me, but so do the majority of frat boys.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Never join a fraternity! They're cultish and haze new members for initiation. People have died from that. Stay away from that.

    It's fine to want to get to know him better, but again, don't agree to join a fraternity, even if you think that it might get you into better favour with this guy. Value your life.

    Talk to him when he is alone, as an individual. It should help you feel less intimidated and apprehensive, than when he is taking with a group.

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