Is it normal to want to leave your partner but you know you can't?

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I'm the type of person to leave the guy as soon as they piss me off. However, I met someone who has shown me something different, he is so genuine that it took me a while to cooperate with it. The thing is I usually don't give the guys a full chance because I'm reserved and have trust issues. So I don't know if he seems genuine to me because I gave him a chance to get to know him which means some guys in my past were probably genuine, too, I just never gave them an equal opportunity OR because he truly is the most genuine out of all the other guys which is what I originally feel. Either way, the way he is genuine with me, the way I feel around him like I can anything and he accepts me for me, is stopping me from leaving him. So why do I want to leave him after giving him major credits? There are a few reasons here and there but the one right now is because he deals with situations very idk p*ssylike. If he is upset with me, he'll leave me hanging and not tell me why. Ugh! and he also has his pride going on when he feels insecure; he'll be in denial how he feels by acting like nothing bugs him because he's too cool or whatever. But I know him well enough now that he's is sensitive and in terms of me, he says I mean a lot to him and he never wants to lose me and yeah I truly believe him just how we are together. If he just had the negative qualities I described him by, I would leave him in a second no matter how cool, cute, funny, he is. But the fact that he actually cares about me, and he has become a best friend of mine, I'm stuck to leave or not.I can't leave him because he's really all I have right now, I've only been going out with him, etc. Tomorrow is Valentine's day and I don't know where we stand. It is so annoying idk if he's going to do something for me and I already know what I want to do for him but shoot, if he keeps acting like a little p*ssy, its not gonna happen. I almost wish though, he doesn't do anything so I can easily move on and ruin his Valentine's day. Is it normal to want him to do something bad or just not good so you're more satisfied with your decision to move on? Who's been through this, too?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    the problem perhaps is that you're calling him a pussy.

    it's not "pussy" to hold things in. actually that's a sign of self-control. i mean what, you'd rather he just haul off and scream at you instead of holding back?

    you need to figure out what's *really* worth dumping a good man over, and what's just being nit-picky.

    because in all honesty, if you dump someone every time you get mad... perhaps you're not ready for an adult relationship.

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  • auroraborealis
    12 years ago

    I also have major trust issues and I've met a guy that is completely unlike any other guy I've ever met. He is very sensitive. I went on a few very awkward dates with him and at first I really didn't think it was going to work out but I'm so glad I stuck it out. Somehow him being my opposite really works out and we mutually respect and care about one another.

    I just wanted to let you know it worked out for someone in a similar situation!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Maybe you want to live on an emotional roller-coaster, as in your previous relationships, arguing over trivial crap etc and this guy just isn't buying into it.

    This sounds like a good man - that you're not used to.

    However, you do need to tell him that you're not a mind-reader. So, if you've done something to annoy him, it's better that he tell you so that you don't do it again.

    If you're only 18 and not ready to settle down then dump him but my husband was very calm compared to me and my previous relationships and before I knew it I had dated him for 6 years and we are now married 23 years :o)

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  • Juular
    12 years ago

    Attraction is not a choice.
    It's ok to dump anybody if you don't feel atracted to them anymore. You don't need any specific rational reason simply because you never decide from your head. You only rationalize backwards to feel more in control, but you don't need and should not control your gut feelings. However you should never dump without giving a proper time to make sure your feelings are really this way.

    Any yes its very normal that girls dump guys because those act like pussies, being wishy/washy, indecisive, and generally lack a backbone and don't express what they really mean. Very common for men to get depolarized through our society. Thats the main reason for divorce, not because women want to express their freedom. A woman still wants a man, those are just more rare nowdays.

    Whats unusual is that you're very concious about what you're doing. Usually girls only feel "I don't know whats wrong but I want out."

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  • suckonthis9
    12 years ago

    One word: overextravagation.
    Females are sometimes like this.
    Note: This is a newly coined term, please review the etymology of 'over' and 'extravagate'.

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  • CaseyRoyce
    12 years ago

    I feel a lot like this. I feel as if I want to leave my relationship, but my boyfriend hasn't done anything horribly bad so I'm like "how would I move on when he's a good guy that did nothing?" If someone else feels this way too, i feel as if it's normal.

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