Is it normal to want to leave my wife

Maybe you should go to marital counseling. I know that sounds cliché but a baby and a new marriage bring about a lot of stresses that set you mind into a state of closure...that is you just want to give up because you see no light. Maybe if you talked it out professionally and got some good, sound feedback you could make better decisions on what you want to do with your marriage. If it were me and I were a wife with a new baby and new marriage and husband I wasn't 'in' love with anymore, I'd try it, just to clear my head so I can say I made my decision from a solid state of mind not a despairing one. I hope this helps and try to see things from your wife's point of view, it can't be easy to have just gone through pregnancy and labor and maybe sense that your husband doesn't want you anymore. Best wishes.

doesnt anyone know what contraception is anymore!!

Wolfbane, what are you crying about? I gave you a perfectly legitimate answer, it may be harsh but it's the correct post. I don't even have to read the whole last post, I got the jist in the first few sentences. She used the baby as leverage to stay with you..,ok she's a psycho, never did I say she was a good girl or a keeper, it all goes back to you knocking up a girl that had major issues. Your fault. Yes it happens, yes it sucks, but deal with it, you can't go back in time, leave the slob wife, and do your best to raise the kid. What are you looking to hear from us exactly??? Your asking if it's Normal to wanna leave this waste of skin wife of yours..,yes people break up all the time because they are too stupid to realize they weren't the right pair to begin with. Not saying your unintelligent, you made a mistake, live with it. I've slept with over 40 women, I have no kids. I'm not the smartest guy in the world but I'm smart enough to realize I didn't want a kid with a random chick I didn't know. And if I slipped one by the goalie, I wouldve been fucked just like you. Don't cry over spilled milk, break up with this troll gf of yours and live your life, you'll be a lot happier, just know that you have a responsibility to your kid first, and while your having fun, don't make the same mistake, if you do, then I'll question your intelligence

ok first of all i came to this forum to ask for advice, i didnt post here so people (when i say other people i mean those like petawawacouple69 and den411.) who apparently like to make others feel shittier than they already feel. to me that kind of shit right there is a reach for help, but thats a completely other topic, everybody fucks up in life at some point, im sure none of you others would appreciate me sayin how screwed up your lives are, point being im simply askin for honest advice im not asking to be treated like some rapist or murderer! if all you wanna do is bash me with rude comments dont bother posting, otherwise please leave some advice.. NOW back to the topic at hand, a little factoid of info, my wife anticipated getting prego simply to use the child as leverage in our relationship, (and she does) she uses our baby like a knife to my throat, yes i understand i should have been using protection, and yes i should have been more careful, but again, mistakes happen especially me being unaware of her intentions. and at this point our baby is almost 9 months old, and nothing between me and my wife has changed, although now, she does nothing but sleep and eat all day, and she doesnt do ANY housework,im not complaining im only justifying why i feel the way i do, i work all day and have to come home and cant even find a clean spot on the couch to relax because of the wrappers and dishes and shit she leaves behind, i might as well be living with a house of 10 year olds, (well even a houseful of 10 year olds would stay cleaner than it is now)ive tried compromising with her, making a cleaning schedule, arranging babysitters so that both of us can take a few hours to clean, but that doesnt even last, nothing i say to her helps, and she has even looked at me and said to my face that she is lazy and she shouldnt have to cook and clean, and her bigest excuse is that she has to watch the baby, now how many other SINGLE parents are out there who work, clean cook and watch their baby and they can pull it off, so why should she be any different? and i have been worried several times because ive come home from work and noticed a scratch or small bruise on the baby, and when i ask her about it she admits that the baby fell and bumped its head or scratched itself, but even so, apparently she isnt watching our child as well as she should or she wouldnt have any bumps or bruises and sometimes ill catch her in theact, ill lay in bed and hear noises and stuff bangin around and falling only to come out and find that she is letting the child climb on stnds and pull crap of counters but as soon as she knows that i have caught her is the only time she will actually get up and supervise our baby, oherwise if im gone then she lets our eigh month old run the house. and its rdiculous. this is why i feel the way i do

Your just another loser that took on a father role with a girl you didn't want to be with. Kids should have 2 parents. You put stress on this kid by having him knowing you didn't love his mother. In short your a deuch. Do you think your different than every other guy. We all want other women, we aren't meant to be monogomous. But when a child is involved you have to bite the bullet and do what's right. If your so mentally weak that you can't be with that girl, you never should've had the kid. I'm not saying stay with her without loving her, but you fucked up by having a kid, your better off to leave while the kid is very young. Maybe he can find a real role model father after you take off

Shut the fuck up den411
If you want to leave someone you don't love anymore well you picked the wrong mother fucking time to do it but you already know that. That's bullshit you can't find the love for your wife now when it sure as hell used to fucking be there. Know your scum for leaving but know your worse if you cheat on her and hurt her after she had your fucking child and loved you. And let me tell you if do decide to listen to den411 and your child finds out your doing that shit he or she is going to fucking hate you. Hope you make the right decision.

I think its normal but that your just a dumb fuck like most guys when they get married. This is how it is, son! When you get married your life is over. If you were a selfish prick before marriage, you will be absolutely miserable. Be honest with yourself, this isnt Dr Phil! But, you have a chance to really make a great life for your child. Man, that is what its all about, in the long-run. Its not about you or your bitch wife, its not about the past, its about your kid, and your future with your kid. I know this sounds gay, but its so true, no matter how selfish you are or how much your into yourself, even your own kid is more important than your princess ass!. A friend of mine asked his brother for advice in a similiar situation, his brother said just fuck around on the side and dont get caught. You will feel good about yourself, and not get into another serious situation, and still have your fam, and be more tolerant to your wife, because you are a scumbag yourself. Although its not PC, that its the best advice i have ever heard. Just keep it safe, shit can transmit to your wife, and through your wife to your kid if she is breast feeding. As much hostility you may have for your wife, you dont want your kid to be without mom.

Pregnancy and the months following the birth are a difficult time in a marriage. Pregnancy, because it interrupts the sex life and some men feel the need to stray.

But the birth of the first child in particular because this woman who you previously saw as a sexual creature is now a mother. Not only that, but her attention is devoted (quite rightly) to the newborn. You may be feeling jealous, left out, unwanted.

In short, you are not a bad person. You are experiencing something which is apparently quite normal for men. My personal opinion is that you have to dig in and be selfless and patient (for at least a couple of years) and you will probably find your feelings come back.

Although bringing up kids is going to be one of the hardest things you ever do, it's supposed to be the most rewarding. Stick with it.

Sometimes marriages have it's ups and downs. Having a baby will cause new stresses and make people question themselves more. Maybe you want to split up again because that is what you are used to doing in the past. People in marriages need to work at being romantic. They think that they always have to feel absolutley in love 24/7 but it doesn't work like that. You are allowed to feel annoyed or whatever but I guess do what's righ for you.

It's normal. Things don't always go as planned. You need to figure out what it is you want to do. Don't string it along if you're just gonna end it.

Its normal because of your stupidity. People who marry quick have an 85% chance of divorce. Should have used your brain dumdum.

oh common, she can't be that ugly.