Is it normal to want to leave husband after surgery.

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My husband tore his knee paying soccer. He played soccer so much before his injury that I almost left. He was barely home and I was with the baby alone til he usually came home from the field at midnight. And he worked during the day.

Well, He has had his surgery and the stress is getting to me. We have a 14 month old son. I am the only one working (40 hours) and I come home to clean and cook. No only that but I also sell Avon (for extra money) and have a book to finish writing and take care of him and help him with his therapy at home. Not to mention paying on his medical bills which total 40,000. And since English is not his first language I end up doing all the paperwork and setting up appointments. Also, it's been harder than ever to loose weight. So not only am I stressed but I am also absolutely disgusted with myself. I feel as though leaving him is the best option for me and my son's financial future. I warned his about playing soccer to much and leaving his family behind and I feel as though I shouldn't have to pay for his accident when I warned him.

Is this normal?

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Based on 76 votes (41 yes)
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  • MNTRX
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you need therapy.

    Or at least marriage counseling.

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  • auburnsin
    11 years ago

    Send him back to Mexico if you can.

    My aunt was in a similiar situation. She dated this mexican and had a child out of wedlock. The guy would not commit to a job or raising their child. However he enjoyed free rent and soccer. Sadly my aunt put up with this guy for years. The breaking point was when he laid hands on her. Cops got involved and she deported his butt back across the boarder.
    Also when my aunt found out he was back again ilegally, she called the cops and had him sent back again.

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  • hidden_in_the_shadows
    11 years ago

    marriage counseling give him anoler chance, do it for your son

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  • JayPr'zBaddest
    11 years ago

    Well i think you put youself in it so you should go ahead and pay for it. Even though you should have left him LONG AGO! Seems like you need counseling and lots of it.

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  • sweetcheeks21
    11 years ago

    U guys need a serious talk, kinda sounds like he needs a kick
    Up the ass, it takes 2 to make a baby so he needs to step up, kinda ironic he hurt himself playing soccer considering he's never there for you or his kid, serves him right, he should get a job, provide for you both, and be a MAN i would not put up with a man like that, he's taking you for granted, if you think your better off without him and u probably are cause by the sounds of it he does nothing the lazy bum, then it might be best to dump his ass, tell him exactly how u feel if he steps up then good if he doesn't well go with your instincts.

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  • scandinavia
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you need to talk! give him an ultimatum

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  • Loh
    11 years ago

    Forget talk, leave his ass.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Lady, you need therapy. Its not fair to him or your kid to abandon him because he injured himself. He's needs you now the most. If you leave him for such selfish reasons, how do you think this will effect him? I know that you stressed out and what not but there are better ways to deal with this like: Marriage Counseling and personal therapy just for you.

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  • MissCooper
    11 years ago

    Are you South African?

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    • randomwoman
      11 years ago

      no not south african. in American. My husband is from mexico

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  • sweetcheeks21
    10 years ago

    Please don't hurt yourself over that freak u deserve and can do SO MUCH BETTER he's a pathetic excuse for a man would live to kick his a**!!!

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  • sweetcheeks21
    10 years ago

    Hun what happene?

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  • randomwoman
    11 years ago

    so I just found out my husband cheating on me by having a one night stand. Good bye everyone I'm not gonna live past tonight.

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  • whatdoyoumeannormal
    11 years ago

    I dont know what kind of man he is. but i believe you dont really have to put up with his bills or the therapy. He should take his responsibility and atleast take care of your kids. Suggest taking a break. go to parents or a friend and leave him on his own for a while, maybe he'll get his act up and come to senses. take care of yourself and good luck!

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  • jax906
    11 years ago

    Do you have any family or does he that could help? I think you are experiencing normal stress from a lot of events going on in your life. Have you asked him if he could help you? Even if he's in bed, I'm sure he could fold the laundry or keep the baby for maybe an hour so you can go to the gym.

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