Is it normal to want to hook up with people just for experience?

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I am a 25 year old guy. I actually don't have much experience in relationships. I have only been in a serious relationship once and I have only had sex a few times and with very few girls.

The issue is that I am at the age in which I could meet "the one" at any moment. Since I don't have much experience in general, I am just afraid that I won't be able to handle a truly significant relationship when the time comes.

I feel like I still have a lot to learn. For instance, I obviously have almost no sexual prowess at all. At the same time, I haven't really learned how to be a good boyfriend. There are certain scenarios I have no idea how to deal with.

The main problem is that currently I am completely uninterested in love. I don't want to be with anyone and I don't even have much sexual needs. However, as I said in the title, I just feel like I want to get more experience. I am just terribly afraid that someone important might slip through my hands because I wasn't good enough.

So well, is it normal to want to be with people just to train?

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I think I can understand where you're coming from. I feel like I'm missing out on some experiences here myself.

    I think though that it's normal. You want to be able to know what you're doing and it sucks that being in a relationship requires another person. I get where you're coming from, but there isn't much you can do. Unless you really don't care at all you're only main option is to just find someone who's very desperate and use them. However, I wouldn't suggest that since you're just toying with people and that's seriously wrong. If you want to train then don't look at dating as some sort of obstacle. Ask a person that you wouldn't mind being with out and see where the relationship could go from there. That's really all I got.

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  • starie
    10 years ago

    Kissing people just for the hell of it is good. I've been in that position where I wasn't looking for anything meaningful but just to make out with people. Have random experiences/connections with people. It feels good and no drama attached.

    I've never kissed people to train since I consider myself a good kisser but if I felt I needed to better myself on kissing than I'd probably ask a friend to teach me and then ofc go out into the field ;) practice is key, after all.

    how this helped.

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