Is it normal to want to have anal sex but be scared?

I guess I need to save one of these so I don't have to keep re-typing it.

Rules for anal sex / pegging / strap-ons / analingus

1. enema. It washes away any fecal material that may be left. It flushes some of the harmful bacteria out. You may use a soapy enema if you want a really clean feeling. Just be sure to do 2-3 clean water enemas after, since soap can be bad. (Ivory too, pure soap, not like irish spring with moisture balls) Besides cleaning things, the water will moisturize your very delicate insides, and help the internal muscles relax.

2. Lube. I prefer gel-lube, like Astroglide. (I used to use KY until developing an allergy to it) Oil lubes are what I call "slow" lubes. They take more force, and generate more friction. And cannot be used with condoms. Oh, and they take longer to wash off. ( Mineral oil, vaseline, olive oil, etc) Safe lotions and conditioners can be used in a pinch, but highly not recommended due the chemical additives. These due allow a bit less friction than oil though. (pure curel, organic conditioner, but I repeat, not advised) Fast lubes are usually water based, this makes them condom safe, and much easier to clean up. These allow even less friction, and are usually cheap enough to use copious amounts. Gel lubes tend to stay in place longer. Adding a bit of water (spit) will refresh the slippery (Astroglide, KY, Wet). There is a lube above those "super-fast" or "modern" and its silicone. It has the staying power of oil, and the friction reduction of a "fast" lube, if not even more. However, they are harder to clean up, cannot be used with most sex toys, and are the most expensive.

3. Lube on the outside is just lube on the outside. Find a way to "inject" it inside too. Lube shooters are a great little cheap invention. One squirt within the first half an inch, and another buried to the shooter's depth, ensures proper coverage. Why so much lube? It eases the pain, and because the rectum can't produce its own lubrication. Without lube, it would do some serious damage.

4. Start small! Maybe a finger. then two. You have to work your way up to toys / penis sized things. If you force something in to quickly, there is a very sharp pain that is centered around the muscles, not just the hole itself. The rectum doesn't stretch quite like the vagina, so when you go to deep, you'll feel a deep pain also. Taking your time and allowing you "hole" to stretch gradually, will absolutely ensure that it doesn't hurt.

5. More lube.

6. Listen to what your body is telling you. If it doesn't seem like any pain is going away, something is wrong. Or maybe your body just isn't into anal that day.

7. Once you get practiced, there are lots of ways to alter how it feels inside. My favorite was to add a bit of warming lube. It makes it feel like you really have to go, and you want to push. As you push, and the object moves in against the grain, its a very wonderful feeling. It is possible to have an anal orgasm. It is entirely different than a regular orgasm.

I've never tried it but if I was going to, I'd probably have some apprehensions too. From what people have told me, no amount of lubrication is too much. Oh, and use protection.

Widen your asshole with an umbrella.

Don't. It tears open your anal flesh exposing it to the fecal matter.