Is it normal to want to end my marriage

I think it's normal to want out. I couldn't imagine being with the same person from at such a young age. Twenties
Are more or less the age we do some soul searching, because there's fat chance of finding yourself in high school; we can't expect to be the same person at 26, that we were at 16. And that's not even accounting for the fact he has cheated on you.

He cheated on you so, it's only normal for you to feel this way. Perhaps, some time away from him would be beneficial, if not, then maybe counseling? On the part of feeling "trapped" and not "being able to go anywhere". Do you feel like this emotionally or is he actually making not be able to do things? If so, then he sounds abusive on that part and it would be best for you to get away from him as soon as possible.

Joybird, I respectfully disagree with you. Have you ever heard of women on the news that are in a bad situation with children then just " snap". I honestly believe that happy, healthy mothers rear happy, healthy children. She needs to do what makes her happy so her children can be happy. I can give good advice on this subject because I got married when I was 16 and my then husband was 23. We had 3 children together. He started doing drugs and my feelings changed for him after 5 years of marriage I left him and found an older man I am now 23 and he'll be 41 in June. He is stable and he is great with my kids and we have a son together and a girl on the way now. We are a hundred times more compatible than me and my ex were. I am so glad that I left that unhappy marriage and I feel the decision that I made to make myself happy has really made the kids happier. I know that my circumstance is somewhat different but by me leaving a bad marriage it opened the door to a better and happier life for my children and I. I had doubts at first but now looking back I don't regret for one second the choice I made. Ultimately, listen to your heart and spirit and let those lead your path. Follow your gut instincts.

I say take a vacation. I know that sounds hard with the life you have right now, but you don't have to go far, just visit a relative for a week or something, and leave your husband at home to watch the kids. It's the least he could do after cheating on you. I know, easier said than done, but you could come back a new momma! :P In reply to your question though, I would want to divorce someone who cheated on me to. Hope you find that time to yourself is sounds like your need.

Wow i feel like iam in the same position as you, except you have double on me. I been with my boyfriend for almost 5 yrs and i feel like i am trapped at times, he has a 5 yr old child so i have been in his life long as well. I am going through the same feelings as to not being able to go out and live life to its full potential. I also have not been with anyone else since getting together at a young age..and the Love life is not the same anymore.. just know i feel your pain and i would love to hear the advice on here as well.

I realize this post is a bit old but I was curious to the outcome.

I've been with my wife since we were 15/16. I'm totally different today than I was all those years ago. She's changed too but not as much as me. I've cheated but she's never either found out or brought it up. We make the best of our lives now, but acknowledge had we met today we wouldn't marry each other. I have no doubt the kids keep us together.

3 years later....

what happened?

Here's the deal. People usually don't stay all super lovey dovey forever. The research shows that couples kind of get bored of each other after children reach about age 4. This is entirely natural. Talk about issues? Lets be real? You both see each other every day. The mystery is probably dead. You're bored. That's it.

With that many children, you need to be focused on them.

Want romance? You have to create it.

I think you need to go on a vacation with your husband. Rekindle those feelings and talk about your issues, feelings etc. your marriage is desperate for some serious communication.

See that's the problem with society now. Its all wrong..people so quick to settle for the usual. I am glad he is around but that doesn't prove anything..and sex is the least of my worries. If u noticed I mentioned more important things than sex Hun..but thanx for the advice.

Yea easier said than done. He has always been there for me. He's just the perfect Guy so ta speak. I believe in mistakes because everyone makes them. But I guess my thing is how would I manage without him? I never really had a job.

Ah i see, well if yoo are certain that yoo are unhappy with him definatly leave, its yoor life & yoo deserve happiness (: x

i think it's normal you want o to divroce, because you married to young! But if you have to think about your kids too. You have 4 and it is very difficult for them to grow up without a father...

Maybe try a trial separation for like 2 weeks & see if yoor any happier? It might even change yoor mind x