Is it normal to want to dump jobless bf full of excuses?

I love my boyfriend. I really do. I connect with him more than anyone and I know we are soulmates. I think he is a talented person when it comes to many things but all of that aside.... he just isn't doing anything. He talks about doing things and the things he will accomplish but I never see him trying to do any of it. The reality is he is 37 years old, not working, and not doing anything. I have tried to push this aside for as long as I can. I am only 21. I am not a shallow person, it never mattered to me that he didn't have money. I take care of myself. So that's not the issue. The issue is he is not doing anything to look for a job. He was living with his mom for three years basically and during that whole time he did nothing but live there. HE DID go to school, and almost finished his degree. Other than that nothing. Now he is moved out of his moms, and his mom is paying all his bills, besides food because he gets food stamps. He doesn't even have a car..... He is back in school getting certified... but I feel like if he cant hold down a job right now then what would make me believe he would be able to do so after getting a certificate from a trade school?
I am conflicted about this. On one hand I love him for who he is and this stuff doesn't matter. On another hand its starting to bug me. I am not sure how to motivate him to do anything.
ANOTHER thing is the excuses..... I think he makes excuses for everything. He has been convinced that has something he hasn't been diagnosed with. He goes to the doctors SO MUCH. They haven't found anything serious but he is always self diagnosing himself online, and telling me that he is dying. I am supportive as I can possibly be but its stressful. I have never met anybody so dramatic about their health. I'm convinced he is a hypochondriac.... I'm not sure if he really has anything or not. I just think its all bullshit and he is paranoid.
Of course I don't tell him that because I don't want to come across as an insensitive bitch. But i'm starting to get FED UP with all of this. At this rate he will never get a job, and will always be ill with mysterious, undiagnosed illnesses.
The last month it has been pissing me off and irritating me more than usual. He said once he moved out of his moms he would get a job. But he puts forth no effort.
I want to break up with him. I feel like a bad person for wanting that but I fear he is never going to change. Would I be wrong to breakup with him? I just don't know how much more I can take. I am trying my hardest to get all of my stuff together in life and dealing with mental health issues of my own.
I feel shallow for wanting to leave him, but he just isnt trying...
I love him dearly but I honestly don't see how him and I WILL WORK if he is always going to be this way. Does anyone think its even possible that he will change?
It would be so different if he was just down on his luck right now and was making a genuine effort to be different. But that's really not the case with him. I know that he says he wants a job but every action he does says otherwise.
TO JUST throw this out there, he has gone clubbing, to bars, to movies, out with friends, to a halloween party. It's not like his illnesses are an issue then. They become an issue when he is at home in his room, sleeping all day, staying up all night and basically just watching movies/watching porn/ and fu**ing off. IF I HAD ANY REASON to believe that he was undiagnosed with something serious and genuinely suffering I would be much more understanding, But I KNOW ITS all a farce. I am not stupid. I am sick of his crap and his drama about dying yet he can go out with his friends on random occassions and be fine??? I dont think so. What should I do?
HE IS MY SOULMATE so the love I Have for him is unconditional, and I know our connection will always be there. But as far as dating him goes..... is it just a mistake to even try until he gets his life together?