Is it normal to want to date every woman? and to avoid commitment?

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I'm in my mid-20s, and have been trying to find a girlfriend for years. I'm smart, talented, attractive, etc. Essentially, everything that a women my age would want. In fact, I have many women who DO want to date me (and no, I'm not bragging).

My problem is, I keep thinking I WANT to date someone, but every time I even get remotely close, I run away, or just become generally avoidant of the situation. I'll start ignoring her calls/texts, and make up excuses for why I can't hang out. Often, they're not even excuses though, (I don't consider "It's 10:30 and that's too late for me to go out" a bad excuse).

I think I have this constant "grass is greener on the other side" issue, where every time I get to know someone, I realize there are things about them that I don't like - and usually assume that I'll find the "perfect" one somewhere else. So I just keep on searching, and never finding the right one.

In the meantime though, I tell all of these women that I already talk to, that I still DO want to hang out with them, and usually do on occasion. I know I don't really intend to date one of them, because if I did, then I wouldn't be able to find someone else, but I still hang out with them anyway.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, but basically, I don't want to limit my choices to JUST one female. I want to try ALL of them until I find the perfect one (which apparently doesn't exist).

Is it normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Is it normal to want to fuck every woman? And avoid commitment.

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    • DogTown13
      10 years ago

      Most of my guy friends would agree that that's pretty normal haha.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Oh few, I thought I was going crazy.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Maybe you just need to be more introspective and figure out what you want. Not to compare women to objects, but it seems you are only browsing through the products that are advertised to you. If you know what you're looking for it will be easier to find. When I was younger, all I wanted was a boyfriend who loves me and I found one. My boyfriend (before he met me) wanted a weird, shy girl with dark hair and glasses and he found one. I don't know if it works like that for everyone, but I think the power of what we desire or wish is stronger than we think.

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    • DogTown13
      10 years ago

      Well, I know what I want. The problem is, I don't think she exists. And so I browse around, hoping that someone will be close enough for me to consider being exclusive with her.

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  • Schindlerww
    10 years ago

    I'm the female version of you, except I would date a married man

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Impossible.

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  • voges
    10 years ago

    You're still young and maturing. Just focus on dating now, dont worry about committment. Maybe in 10 years from now, you'll have more of an idea about what you want. Just remember this one point, no-one is perfect. Every girl has pluses and minuses. The idea is to settle down with the girl whose minuses you can live with.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    If you dated my wife you'd be dead.

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    • DogTown13
      10 years ago

      Haha, I don't think I'd date a married woman.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        good.

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