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I seem to find, if I have a crush on someone, or really like them, I tend to turn into a push-over and want to do anything to please them or keep them happy.
Be careful that you don't get into co dependancy. But I think it is somewhat normal to want to make someone happy. Depends if you are doing to make yourself happy or expecting something back. Otherwise I think you are a nice person.
At which point they then lose all respect for you and walk all over you.
Correct?
it's normal as long as you don't neglect your own feelings and needs. If you go "to far" in making someone happy, you may end up regretting things.
If you don't push things too far, however, its a normal, wonderful, but somewhat seldom quality.
That's a great quality to have and you'll have very lucky partners but just don't become clingy and possessive and do so much for the other person that you get nothing in return or make them lazy
The best way to make your partner happy is to be happy yourself.
You don't need to buy them lots of expensive presents - as so many stupid women do. You should never try to buy anyone's love! Make them want to be with you by being good fun and having lots of funny stories from your own hobbies that you can share each time you see them.
Get a life and try not to be a doormat!
I'm sorry. I didn't mean to be harsh.
However I am renowned for having little tact or not sugar-coating the pill - even in real life but I always tell the truth.
You can learn a lot on this site from others who have made your mistakes in the past and save yourself years of heartache and heart-break. A lot may go against your own nature but I believe you do not get what you deserve, rather, you get what you settle for. So don't be a doormat for anyone and make sure you're not with a 'taker'. I went out with a miserly guy once and it is a rotten quality in a person!
Good luck!
Thanks, that's really good advice. The person that I find myself trying to make happy is not a "taker", she likes to do things for herself but I still try to make her happy...It's like there's something wrong with me?
No there's not something wrong with you - you just want to make her happy and that's understandable. But, material possessions don't make anybody happy. The best thing you can do is make her laugh.
I have friends who send me loads of funny pictures and photos on facebook (which I've only started to use) so sometimes at night I show the best ones to my husband and we laugh for ages :) Simple things like that make someone want to be with you - coz you're good fun.
You could be really good to someone and be boring to them so it's always good to introduce the odd surprise!
Good luck.