Is it normal to want to come out even though you're mostly straight?

Most of the people I've been attracted to are girls, so mostly I'm straight . . . but from time to time I like a guy, but I don't ask him out because no one knows this part of me. Really it shouldn't be a big deal, especially since fundamentally I'm straight, but I guess I'm just kind of "open-minded." And if I really like a guy, I don't want to date him and just let everyone assume I'm gay, because really I'm not. That's really not me.

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  • quentari

    bisexual or bicurious sound like they fit better than "Gay" or "Straight", but that doesn't mean you have to act on it if you don't want to. If you are still genuinely attracted to girls then there's no reason that you HAVE to date a guy.

    BUT.

    There's no harm in trying. Go on one date with one guy and see how it goes, you don't have to tell anyone you're going on a date with a guy and you don't have to tell anyone about it at all unless it becomes serious, and even then you can come out as "bi" rather than "gay" if that's what you feel describes you better.

    Being attracted to guys won't change who you are. You won't suddenly start wearing sequins or talking with a lisp. You won't even magically have better hygiene or become a better dancer.

    You will, however, be able to appreciate The Avengers a hell of a lot more.

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  • normalisboringbr0

    you sound bicurious to me or bisexual at the most, but labels should not matter. i would wait though, since you still seem uncertain. if you fall for someone of the same sex, and are maybe thinking of pursuing a relationship with them, then yo should come out! just in case things go the wrong way and you realize you are straight, y'know? :) much love and support xo!

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  • johnathan

    be yourself be bisexual

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  • Terence_the_viking

    All i will say is don't lie to yourself.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    I think you are just in denial.

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  • rhythmness93

    Dude, it's fine. I know a few straight** guys who have accepted a blowjob from a homosexual guy. Hey, man. we like pleasure.

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  • dazjman

    I'm just a strange straight person, but I used to think it would be easier to "come out" as gay and blame my weird personality on gayness.
    But now I've realised I just have to accept myself as a slightly camp and very odd loner who is also a straight guy.

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  • youngwiccan

    I have a bf and I'm straight but I wanna fuck my best friend who is a girl it's normal don't make it a big deal

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  • ZitsOnMyButt

    Just come out and own it. You have the advantage of being able to choose from a wider variety of sexual partners.

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  • sissybrucie

    Now that my wife has caught me masterbating looking at naked mens magizines and has me wearing panties ,she says I should come out and admit Iam bi and suck cocks ,and I am and I do ,Sissy Brucie

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  • Aichn

    I've been there and I'm open about it all. Women can find it interesting, or not care at all, or even sometimes get jealous or try to prove their better..
    I'm mostly attracted to women, but am with a man. Who knew aye?
    Just do whatever makes more sense to YOU, as what makes you feel right. :)

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  • kelili

    I really think that you should keep it to yourself because as it seems you are more likely to finish your life with a girl and the world is not gay-friendly. Don't buy yourself etiquette. Some girls would be turned-off by this.

    I know what most of you would think, "If she really loves me she would accept." But life isn't as simple as that. You should remember that if we, most of IINers, are open-minded about sexual orientation this is not the case for everyone.

    Please think about it.

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    • I think I agree with you so far. I'll wait for more responses before I decide on anything, though.
      Do you think it's too risky for a low-key confrontation with a guy? Just like a date or something that I could shrug off as hanging out? I don't know. What do you think?

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      • kelili

        Oh if you want to date a guy, go on. Do what makes you happy :) Be careful and use protection.

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