Is it normal to want to be with someone when they are suffering a loss

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I have been single for a year and a half and this year I wanted to find myself a genuine man as I feel its the right time for me. I found a man im interested in and I have known this particular man for awhile, two years or so.. We did have a 'thing' last year, however it wasnt a good time for either of us.. We just ended up staying friends. At the start of this year we started hanging out again, it was really good and we were getting along really well.. Sometimes flirting was involved but thats as far as it went, then his two Best friends passed away. I cant imagine how difficult and painfull it has been for him, I have tried to be there for him without being too over the top. Its so hard to know what to say or do in this situation as
I want to see him and spend time with him but then again maybe I should just take a step back and let him grieve with the support of his close friends and family but also let him know that im here for him if he needs me. Or should I make an effort to msg him
And see him often to be there as support because he might not want to ask for it? . So confused!.. Please help!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Let him know you are sorry for his loss. Stop in for a short visit, bring him some cookies or something. Shouldn't be too hard to cheer him up.

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  • Mekkars
    9 years ago

    You sound nice like you want to wrap him up in a protective blanket and help him in his darkest hour.

    Wish there was more people like that.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'd let him know, in no uncertain terms (in other words, don't be vague or cryptic) that you are there for him, should he need to talk or just want someone to do things with, and leave it up to him.
    Don't invest too much of yourself at this point, just be available.
    For me, I'd rather share my grief with someone, especially a girl, than suffer through alone, but we are all different.
    Good luck.

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  • ApatheticRoy
    8 years ago

    Pathetic.

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  • mlbryan44
    9 years ago

    Suck him off, works wonders!

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