Is it normal to want to be single forever because i hate making gifts?

I'm a 18 years old male. Never had a relationship. But I'm not single because girls reject me. On the contrary, I reject and/or avoid them. I'm fine with most things in relationships, but one of them is really bugging me. Gifts. The tradition is so fake and materialistic, it makes me cringe, but everyone around me thinks it's very important. I don't feel any joy when I give or receive any crap just because it's someone's birthday or whatever. Love is not about it, true love is unconditional, it just is, no confirmations needed. I refuse to follow their rules and here I am, single yet happy. It's unlikely that I'll meet a girl who agrees with me. After all, I live in such a dump. In Kazakhstan.

Does anyone feel the same way?
Should I change while I'm still young?
Am I... normal?
If not, is it something bad?

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Based on 26 votes (13 yes)
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  • AnonymousOfCourse

    It's required in your country that if you love someone, you need to give them gifts? Unless you're getting married or something, that's strange.
    I'm not sure what gifts have to do with love, but a gift isn't always a material object. Listening to someone, being there for them, doing something for them like a task can be a gift.

    If it is required though that a material object be given, just wait until you meet the right girl. Don't let yourself be single just because you hate the idea of gifts though. You'll know who she is because you'll WANT to make her something, just to make her happy.

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    • Segaist

      I'm not sure if it has something to do with the country, but people around me think "that if you love someone, you need to give them" "material objects", yeah. As for "listening to someone, being there for them, doing something for them like a task", I enjoy doing this.

      Anyway, you're right. I'll just wait, and even if I won't find the right girl, then so be it. After all, I don't think that my life is incomplete in any way because I'm single.

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  • Unimportant

    Сәлеметсізбе? қалын қалай?

    That being said, I sort of agree with you, except for one little thing:
    "...true love is unconditional, it just is, no confirmations needed..."
    That is just so cute.

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  • Maya05

    I agree with your view on gifts. I personally hate them. Hate giving them and hate receiving them. Unless it was a gift for no actual occasion, a Real gift. Not one that people feel pressured into giving for a holiday or a stupid birthday. As for your question, I guess this isn't very normal but I'm sure there are a lot of others who would agree.

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  • bananaface

    You could always make a present. I always much prefer stuff that a person has made, since it's usually not very expensive to make, but almost always thoughtful. Most of my favourite presents were stuff like that, a few of them were free, and I don't see how that could be seen as materialistic. Or fake even. It's meant to be a way of showing someone you care about them, a nice gesture. If someone gives me a gift which is just giving for the sake of it, then I can see why that might be cringe-worthy.

    If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has different beliefs than you, then that's your decision. There probably are other people out there who share your beliefs, though. To me, it seems like a little bit of a weird thing to pick at. A bit fussy, but that's only because I don't really care that much about people's beliefs (which I consider a flaw sometimes).

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  • little_freak

    I hear you. But not everyone is a consumerist. There might be someone out there who feels the same way you do. I guess you should think of looking in different places, if the same ones you've been looking so far have driven you always to the same kind of people.

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  • Corleone

    It's normal to prefer being single, but I find your reason kind of odd. Most relationships aren't centered around gifts.

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    • Segaist

      Relationships may not be centered around them, it's true. But most girlfriends take offense if you don't make them a gift on some sort of holiday, don't they? In a long-term relationship this may become a problem. And exceptions only confirm general patterns.

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      • Corleone

        If you have such an issue with gifts, you can always find one who doesn't care about them. (or if she does care about them, explain her why you rather won't get into the whole gift-giving thing)

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