Is it normal to want to be single?

Dude, it sounds like this guy is a dick. Worse, a boring dick. Dump his ass! Relationships are what you what them to be. There's no right or wrong, good or bad ones. If you feel like this one isn't working for you, end it. Simple as that.

You should try to have a life on your own. Go out with some friends who do like to party, get to know new people. Do what you want to do for your age. He has no right to take this away from you. Maybe he had his partying time and he's ready to settle and live the boring life or whatever. Doesnt mean he can force you to do the same at your age. The fact that there is an age difference is the reason you should do this. It is also the reason he should be able to respect this.

It would be easy to call him boring, but I dont really think that is what it is all about. I know alot of people who are around the age of 28-30 who just want to settle. Then they become madly in love with someone 5 to 7 years younger than them and expect this person to have the same feeling towards settling down? It's unrealistic and thats all there is to it.

If you want to stay with him, then try to explain this to him. See if he lets you, see if he trusts you enough to let you go your own way now and again. It's not strange that he might be uncomfortable or have trusts issues about it. Thats kind of normal. Just find a way to comfort him.

As for a story share...I have this friend with benefits. I'd like alot more from our relationship but I can't ask for it. She is 20 years old, very independants, very mature for her age. But she needs to be free and do what she wants to do. No 25-30 year old man can expect her to settle down with him. And alot of guys do their best to make her feel bad about her "childish" behaviour. which is utter bullshit. She's a very responsible young woman, but she also enjoys her sexuality and youth, as she should. She isnt about to settle down or calm down in the next 5 years, and to be honest...neither did I between the age of 20 and 25. So how the fuck can I expect her to settle on one guy long before she knows what the fuck she wants

I guess what I am trying to say is that you shouldnt let a guy manipulate you into feeling bad about yourself because you want to do what you want to do. Maybe you're boyfriend will be very understanding, maybe he will need alot of reasuring...or maybe he wil turn out to be a posessive asshole. In the end the adult thing to do is try to communicate the things you want as best as possible, but always do what you want to do even if he doesnt really understand or can't look at it from your point of view. Because you owe it to yourself

Whoa, see that's the problem with living with someone; there's nowhere to go to get time alone. I'm so happy to be living with just my cat. You say that ya'll are very compatible but later that ya'll are polar opposites. It sounds to me like you know what to do but just feel really guilty. Try to put thoses hopeless romantic feelings aside cause that sort of thing is in reality far more hopeless and much less romantic. You're so young and you have your whole life ahead of you. What do your parents think of you living with this guy? What about going to college or a trade school? You could join the military to get money for college. I dunno much about the Peace Corps but at your age life is so full of possibilities. Also there's a program for young people to get job training called Job Corps. I don't think you were meant to be together with someone who is very insensitive toward your feelings and talks to you any old kinda way. Whatever you do don't waste time watching stupid Twilight movies or putting your belief in quasi spiritual bullshit about fate and all that. There are seven billion people on the planet he's not the only one out there. Does he by any chance have any history of problems with drug or alcohol addiction? Don't be a lush or anything but if one person has substance problems and the other doesn't it can be a definite issue and if he's got problems it's not enough to be sober cause he would need treatment for his issues too. Life is too short to waste. Also what about religion? Do ya'll share the same faith and beliefs? Is one of ya'll an animal person and other not? Life is too short to waste especially when your still so young. Carpe diem!

you can't help what you feel. if you stay in the relationship, you may end up resenting him for keeping you trapped. you're young. tell him you need some time to be independent and establish a real sense of self as an individual and not as a couple.