Is it normal to want to be in an abusive relationship

You need to dump him before he foes hurt you. Then get some counseling.

So you like to be with 'Bad boys'? Thats normal, extremely normal. You want to be punished to help you get over your guilt? Thats normal too. However, when two people truly love one another, the last thing they would ever do is hurt one another. He doesnt love you, he loves owning you, and thats the part you love in him. You see that in him and misconstrue this as his love for you. But you know you deserve better, or you wouldnt be looking for love in the arms of another... Get help before you get REALLY hurt.

Uhm no ma'am it's not abusive reltionships are never normal or good, it seems like you're looking for some help more than to see if it's normal. If I were you I would get the cops involved claim domestic violence and get a restraining order. Thats not love, thats abuse.

I worked cases like this all the time when I was a cop. "Blah blah blah boyfriend hit me but no I don't wanna press charges cause I looooove him boo hoo". Newsflash...he's going to kill you.

Ditch him and move on he is obviously very bad news. Maybe you like abuse sometimes is beacuse you like being donminated or controlled by men?. If this is the case keep it in the bedroom dont stay with any crazy ass that will hurt or possibly kill you in the future.

He's not going to change.
People like that don't change.
You need to leave him, and find help for yourself.

This is not normal. Your thought process is not abnormal, other people have felt the same way you do. You should get rid of this guy before something really bad happens and possibly talk with someone about why you have feelings that you deserve to be treated poorly. No one deserves to be treated that way. Best of luck to you.

that's not normal at all. you should be with someone who makes you happy, not someone who abuses you and puts you down all the time. even no relationship is better than a bad relationship.

What is wrong with you????

You deserve it if you stay.

Omg, you are a fucking idiot

Dumb girls like you are the reason why guys think they can be assholes. Good job.

This abusive relationship is distorting your views of the situation - you're not your healthy self, you have been affected mentally as a result of his abuse. Please get help and GET AWAY FROM HIM, or you could end up seriously injured, or dead. That's right, DEAD.

Sorry, girl, but you're stupid.

It is not normal you need to seek professional help.

i have a diferent view than everyone else ... I doubt your whole relationship boils down to those few things you mentioned in your post, I think you love him and he loves you ... but your not very loyal and he doesnt know how to handle that .... if he's raised like many guys are ,, then if a girl cheets or flirts around or what ever they get jealous , anger issues ... its part of nature .... the reason i think this way is becuase during all this you found time to have sex with some other guy... thats the thing thats not normal ... and the truth is you deserved a punch in the face ,,, cheeting on a guy is WAY worse than a punch in the face ... its a scar that will last his whole life and shape every fork in the road for him .... if you love him , then love him , be deeply loyal , never cheet or think of it, years will go by and your both wounds will fade ... but love is something very hard to find .... worth fighting for ! ...... if freedom is worth dieing and killing for, then love is worth MUCH MORE! .... you were right to pick his side and not your friends ... friends are mostly worthless in our life ,, most all are stranger and get lost over time .... life is eternal ,, you both have lots of growing to do ... love is the soil we grow best in so talk with him in depth , make deep comitments to eachother and keep true to them.

This is a tough question. On one hand, it's not a good feeling to be physically assaulted and I don't know of anyone who looks forward to it.

However, I get that you're in love with him and you don't want to leave him, even with all of his issues--I've been there, though the situation was a little different. The only long-term relationship I was in was great at the beginning, but declined quickly a few months before the end. He never abused me, but I verbally and emotionally abused him. He stayed with me and put up with it (and I'd been in a depression almost our entire 22-month relationship) because he really cared about me and kept thinking I'd get better. I didn't, and he eventually left; he hates me now for what I did to him and the hurt I caused him. He and I both have our scars now and I'd imagine it'll be hard for him to trust anyone else. It took me over 2 years to get over him, and I still get a pang of regret and pain inside of me over it occasionally. I felt the way you did after that--I hated myself for what I did to him and I felt that I deserved an abusive partner for it (I never had one, thankfully).

Don't let it get to that point for you. You deserve to be happy with someone who will treat you right and love you the way you need to be loved. It'll take time to get over it, especially considering the fact that you love him enough to stay with him despite all he's done to you, but I know that you can find someone better who will love you in the way you should be loved. Don't give this guy the benefit of the doubt--completely cut him out of your life and burn anything he gave you or that reminds you of him. It'll make it easier to get over him if you have no contact with him and there's nothing to look at and think of him. You can't risk being wrong about this. You said that he'd never hit you in the face before--that means it's getting worse. Women have been beaten to death by their boyfriends and husbands. He's not worth it.

He will never change and it's going to start all over
I understand feeling like you deserve someone who will hurt you but you don't
You have dealt with this guy for long enough
Leave.

He's a dick. But I see where you're coming from. I've been in emotionally abusive relationships before and a part of me still misses the intensity of it all. But be careful...

leave him soon or you'll end up like Glenn quagmires sister.

You said he loves you, but yet he beats you? Weird. If he loves and care for you he wouldn't want to harm you. I really can't see myself in your position because the second after he hit me, I'm going to retaliate. I don't care if I'm weaker, but I'm not going to stand for abuse...even if it kills me.

This happened to me on a much smaller scale. I completely understand the lack of self esteem you feel when he starts to abuse you, and it just dwindles away with every beating, but nobody deserves this, no matter what kind of person they are. It probably got worse after you cheated, right? Because you felt guilty and like a bad person for doing that, so you took the beatings again because you felt like you needed to be punished. But honey, this is not normal. You need to realise what a loving and patient person you are for staying with him through all this, but you deserve to be happy, and not afraid for the rest of your life. I understand it might be hard to let him go now, but it will be better for you in the long run, believe me. :)

You know the right decision. Maybe you need to go see a domestic violence counselor. It took me 2 years to realize that my ex (also baby's dad) just used me, physically hit me, verbally used me and took my money. The cops got involved he went to jail a few times yet I still went back with him. You need to realize nobody deserves to get hit and move on to someone who will treat you with respect and love. Really, would you like this man to be the father of your future children?

@codgirl; I read your comments and it seems you know better, Is being in an abusive relationship normal (no), does things like this happen to the best of us (yes). The question you need to ask yourself, "should you continue". Is this how you wish people to treat you, is this how you measure someone's love for you?. C'mon, think about it, you've seen tons of articles, TV-shows, Movies, etc. etc. on the subject.

You need to sit down and rethink on you, what does it take to make YOU happy.. Hopefully this isn't it.. I hate to say it, but once the hitting starts it gets ugly afterward...

Good luck and save yourself.....

Wow!! Ur the crazy one , he's a shitty guy but your a nut