Is it normal to want to be #1 to your bf and past bf's?

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I really want to be #1 to my boyfriend. we have only been dating for a month, however ive known him for 11yrs. I love him and care for him a lot, but when he doesnt make me priority it bothers me. I feel every1 else is number 1 before me. Even his friends. Is this normal? should i not be his number 1? i am clingy and this always happens every relationship. why do i do this? how do i stop this? please help me.. :( i feel like im ruining my relationships with my issues...

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    You desperately need to learn how to be independent and love yourself. Take time off from dating. Focus on yourself and how you don't need to be dependent on external validation - have fun by yourself or with friends, not because you just need a distraction, but because you actually want to. You just need to become comfortable enough with yourself that even if you crave affection and attention (which is totally natural), it's not strong enough to ruin you.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You'll not be happy until you take up with a stalker.

    Stop you behaving like one and think logically.

    Why on earth would anyone change their habits / social life coz they're going out with someone? If you tell him that you expect him to, he's going to run away from you - thinking that you are a nutter.

    You will NEVER make a man do anything he doesn't want to do and if you start whining at him, he's going to dump you. Maybe that was your previous reasons. You don't own anyone, EVER!! Let them do what they like and they will think you are really cool, as long as you can do what you like too!

    When you are with him, enjoy it! End of story!
    When you are not with him, enjoy yourself with friends. Then when you are together you have funny interesting things to tell him.

    I had a friend who rang her husband 8 times a day and texted 10+, while at work. When she went home, he was glued to the TV and never spoke to her. She couldn't work out why!!! Coz they'd discussed every single thing that had happened in their day - so had no need to talk face to face. Duh!

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  • Snowmine
    12 years ago

    I also sometimes feel a little clingy, but that's only because I'm horribly lonely.

    This is also why I chat anonymously! Yay for social interaction!

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    No.2 here, I just want to say that I don't really exist until you destroy your relationship constantly thinking that I do exist.

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