Is it normal to want to avoid your wife?

I find myself avoiding my wife a lot lately. She often disrespects me, sometimes in front of other people. When I went to try to climb a small mountain she tells others that it was "a midlife crisis" (it wasn't). If she doesn't like my haircut, she disses it (if I did that to her, she would be heartbroken). When someone accuses me of something, she often assumes I did wrong instead of standing up for me. The list goes on and on. We get along, but mainly because I avoid her. I want the kids to grow up in a house without arguments and anger, so I tend to avoid her if possible. The family seems much more relaxed when she's not around (I know I am). When she's home, I only engage her if I have to and when I do, I take the high road in order to avoid arguments. This has gotten worse over time. Is this normal?!

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46% Normal
Based on 24 votes (11 yes)
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  • sexysonofsam

    Firstly grow a pair of balls.

    secondly tell her she seems to be gaining weight. No woman can stand this!

    Thirdly tell her to stop her shit or to get ready for the same treatment when her friends come around!

    Problem solved!

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  • LittleGirlMeatHookSodomized

    Tell her she's fat and needs to lose weight.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi

    Been there done that. life is too short to be treated like a second class citizen. when there are tons of honeys that like you for you.

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  • loveiseverything

    Find Jesus- that is the only true answer. Most women are bitches but prayer and growth and God's love changes everything. It is normal by the way, all you are seeing, I've seen it a thousand times. It doesn't mean she's having an affair, that's ridiculous, it just means she's unhappy and probably comes from a critical family and her negativity has gotten out of control because, yes, women need a man (i.e. balls)- which means you have to stand up for yourself. Though I'm not saying she's not having an affair as I have no idea- I don't know her or you. Most people in general in the world, particularly in America, are severely unhappy now. We are living in the end times. Study the bible- prayer- follow the two main commandments: love God more than anything, and love people/neighbor almost as much- which essentially means helping people. Complicated and long but easily accessible when changing one's life with Jesus. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+22:34-40
    I also highly suggest therapy via couples counseling but very few therapists are good enough. You have to search and search until you get the right one (highly intelligent and warm and experienced)- if you have insurance look into it that way- don't stop at first one or two unless they really click. Tell your wife you can't take her negativity anymore, tell her the whole family is tense with her and prefers her to not be around. That should be a wake up call for her to seek help with you! If she won't go, I say get a divorce, but that's just my opinion and something I'm still working out. Selfish people who don't want to grow or change will stay that way forever (unless a miracle by the grace of God) (and in these times, very few are going to receive those great gifts). They need to be with people like themselves or stay alone and miserable. God bless you and your family!

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  • donuthell45

    I second gypsy sailor this is how my ex acted whenever he had affairs. and when he was unhappy at his job. I hope you can work it out and be happy.Or be happy with someone who appreciates you.It sucks to lose half of your stuff but the kids probably don't like all the tension/stress and seeing her treat you like trash all the time.Always remember.You have value you are a human being not a slave or an emotional punching bag

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  • thegypsysailor

    Quite honestly, it sounds like she's having an affair. This behavior is very common for that scenario. This is her guilt, and justification for her unfaithfulness.
    You are going to have to decide on your next move. You can confront her and possible precipitate the end of your marriage, or leave it alone and hope it passes. Of course, the third possibility is that she will leave you for him.
    I don't envy you, but the ball's in your court now.

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  • Ellenna

    This is normal in lots of marriages because marriage isn't a normal state.

    How long do you reckon you can keep this up without losing it with her?

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Soil all her underwears.

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