Is it normal to want this?

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I'm a pretty normal kid. I do well in school and everything, and I'm captain of my guard team at school. My Dad travels a lot, so he and I don't talk much, but I confide in my Mom for everything. However, she is very technical and likes giving advice instead of comforting me, but it's obvious she really does care about my issues.
Recently, I got upset about something, and I cut. I didn't want or mean to, but I just wanted to do SOMETHING to show how upset I was. I'd never done it before and it scared me. Being Catholic, I apologized for my sin and told my Mom. I expected her to flip out, but she wasn't even fazed. She just gave me some more advice and hugged me.
Is it normal that I wish I could shock her? I'm not a bad kid, and I don't want to keep hurting myself, but my Mom made me so upset that I cut again. I find myself wanting to stun her, for her to think, "MY child did this? Poor thing!" Even her wanting to send me to a therapist sounds good. I just wish I could surprise her, and make her worry.
Is this normal?

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58% Normal
Based on 31 votes (18 yes)
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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You need to have sex with your Mom.

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  • Silivrin1
    11 years ago

    Of course your mother loves you dearly, but she clearly believes that the best way to make you feel better is to help you solve your problems. And often that's not what people really need. They don't want to be fixed, they just need some comfort and sympathy. It's the reason that so many people complain and continue to refute the advice that others give them; They just need to get it out and to have their pains acknowledged.

    Also know that it is normal to go to extremes to get the attention that you need -- a normal response, but not a good one. Maybe you should just talk to your mother about this. Tell her that you're really not okay and that you need sympathy. Or perhaps you could try talking to someone else about it.
    You don't need to go on making yourself look worse just to see if it affects her, because that will not work. If you feel that everything is getting too much for you, speak to someone else. You don't need your mother's approval to go see a therapist (your school should have one?). Otherwise teachers and friends can be trustworthy and may take your suffering more to heart.

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  • NeonLighterz
    11 years ago

    Maybe you're crazy and that's just some stranger you're talking to.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Your Mom obviously does not know how to show affection. She loves you and it probably hurt her that you did this but she does not show her emotions like your typical Mother/Nurterer figure. Either way, you're not going to get the reaction that you want so your best bet is to just quit being self-destructive before you seriously hurt yourself

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  • Thewomanizer
    11 years ago

    seems irrational but seems like your seeking affection and sympathy from your mum in the wrong way. Try shocking her by doing something amazing.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe you mum is a robot.

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